CANDICE TAMARA
SO..
WHO AM I?
TRAUMA & MINDSET COACH,
EDUCATOR, SPEAKER, PODCAST HOST, PURPOSE DRIVEN BUSINESS OWNER &
I WAS ONCE YOU....
You know those stories where someone journals a few affirmations, lights a candle, and suddenly attracts the love of their life?
Yeah… this isn’t that story.
My story is about trauma.
Attachment.
And choosing to become someone I had never seen before.
*Trigger warning:
I didn’t just “grow up with issues.” I scored a 10/10 on the ACES trauma test. By the age of 7, I had experienced every form of abuse and dysfunction.
I didn’t feel safe in my body—let alone in love.
Like many survivors, I mistook chaos for chemistry.
At 24, I married someone I thought would finally save me. But what I really did was recreate every wound I hadn’t yet healed.
I couldn’t leave—because abandonment was my blueprint.
So I stayed. I fixed. I fought for love.
And I completely abandoned myself in the process.
When that ended, I didn’t heal — I repeated.
I entered another relationship—this time with someone avoidantly attached. He pulled away. I chased.
My nervous system was constantly in fight-or-flight, but I didn’t know it had a name.
I just thought I was “too sensitive.”
“Too much.”
Or worse—unlovable.
And that’s what anxious attachment does:
It keeps you chasing people who reflect your deepest fears back at you.
Until one day—I finally stopped chasing.
Not just them. Myself.
I discovered attachment theory.
I learned about childhood trauma.
I realised I wasn’t “crazy”—I was patterned.
And for the first time ever, I made a different choice:
To heal.
To rewire.
To become someone new.
AND...NOW?
I’m in a secure relationship that reflects everything I once believed was impossible—because I no longer settle for anything less than what I’ve become.
AND...Through my S.E.C.U.R.E Method™, I’ve helped hundreds of clients break anxious cycles, build emotional safety, and create relationships that feel grounded, reciprocal, and real.
My content has reached millions.
My podcast, F*CK TRAUMA, is a global movement.
And my clients?
They don’t just find love.
They become the version of themselves who receives it with ease.
Because this isn’t about dating advice.
It’s about identity.
Self-worth.
Coming home to yourself.
I believe when we heal the way we love—we heal everything.
So, are you ready to stop chasing love—
and become the version of you who finally feels chosen?
Step 1: Watch my free masterclass
HOW TO MOVE FROM ANXIOUS TO SECURE
Discover why you’re stuck in anxious patterns—and how to break them for good.
Step 2: Listen to the F*CK TRAUMA Podcast
Hear real client transformations, raw truths, and powerful lessons that will remind you:
You’re not alone—and secure love is possible for you.
From my heart to yours...
I believe I went through what I did— not because it was fair,
but because I was meant to alchemise it into power.
I’ve always known my message in this lifetime is simple:
You can overcome anything.
Not because it’s easy.
But because you were never broken to begin with—just patterned for survival.
What you’re feeling right now? That overwhelm, the spirals, the anxiety?
That’s not who you are—it’s a trauma response.
And I promise you: it can be healed.
In fact, it must be—because you are here to experience so much more than pain.
I don’t want you to spend another moment shrinking, overthinking, or speaking to yourself in ways you’d never speak to someone you love.
You are enough. Right now. Fully.
And the moment you see that… everything changes.
If my story speaks to you—reach out. I genuinely love hearing from the souls who land here.
With love always,
Candice x
MORE ABOUT ME...
I’m an only child from London
And yes, I still live here. No, I’m not Australian (even though people constantly say I sound like it).
I’m a Sagittarius
December baby, full of fire, freedom, and zero patience for surface-level chat.
My favourite drink?
A English Breakfast tea. Milk in first, always.
Mantra I’m living by right now:
The world is a mirror.
I’m a cat person forever.
My cat Bleu was catnapped from Greece whilst on holiday. Best decision ever!
My guilty pleasure?
Reality TV. Don’t judge me. Or do. I’ll still be watching The Kardashians.
My inner child's name:
Candy! That was my name growing up!
Healing tools I swear by:
EFT tapping, inner child work, breathwork, journaling, and self-concept reprogramming. These tools didn’t just help me heal—they rebuilt me.