You are high-achieving, independent, driven with your shit together but your relationship with yourself
& others is off balance
 
You over-give in your relationships, often feeling resentful for not getting the same in return. You focus on other people and their problems, often giving unsolicited advice. 

You are an over-thinker, consumed with anxious thoughts about what others are thinking & if they like you
 
You feel responsible for others and their moods, you go along with what others want to please them, often losing yourself & not having a strong opinion on what you want
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You struggle to make decisions, even small day to day decisions fearing the consequences if you made the wrong decision

You experience high levels of guilt and anxiety at the thought of saying no, setting boundaries or putting your needs first

You rely on external validation and are always seeking reassurance in your relationships
 
You haven't got a strong sense of your identity, you suppress what you want & need but are self critical, self doubting, willing to take the blame for others and often don't feel good enough.

You're a perfectionist and struggle with hearing any kind of criticism or feedback, internalising it deeply. 

You can be controlling, nagging and critical in your relationships, sometimes can feel jealousy, struggle to manage your triggers, communicate effectively with others and fear they will leave you.
 
You attract and go for unavailable partners that you over-attach quickly to, ignore red flags, finding it hard to leave, settling for minimal effort & shitting behaviour