CANDICE TAMARA
a 3month supportive & expansive container to guide you to feeling secure in you & your relationships
Ready to have the secure & loving relationships you deserve without anxiety?
Just imagine...
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Picking healthy, loving & emotionally available partners that can meet your needs, make you feel safe & can give you that happy ever after that you have been dreaming of
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Feeling so self-assured that you no longer have to ask your partner constantly to reassure you & tell you they love you 100x a day to soothe your anxiety
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Able to focus on other areas of your life rather than watching your phone waiting for their text & overthinking every interaction wondering if they are losing interest & will leave you
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Feeling safe within yourself as you have deep self-trust, able to be yourself, validate you, put your needs first & input boundaries without guilt
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No longer feeling ‘needy’ as you fill up your own cup & make you happy so you can just enjoy what the other person has to give without expectations & pressure
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Being able to communicate your needs… wait no, first, knowing what your needs are & then being able to communicate your needs without it turning into a conflict...no more walking on eggshells
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Self-soothing your anxiety & working through your own triggers without pushing them away with self-sabotaging behaviour
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Right now you are..
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You are an overachiever, that has worked so hard to achieve so much but doesn’t feel like you're enough, often seen as the 'strong' one by others, your self-critical, put everyone first before you & you change yourself to please others
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You attract partners that are emotionally unavailable & unable to meet your needs, perhaps things are good at first but then they pull away when you get close. You get very anxious when they pull away, chasing after them, asking them what you did & working harder for their attention
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You over-attach very quickly to new partners, ignoring red flags as they make you feel good and giving them all your attention as you think they are the ONE, without them having to prove anything
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You are unsure of what your needs are or how to make you happy so you are putting that pressure on the other person, perhaps they say you are too 'needy' or 'clingy'
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You overthink every interaction looking for signs their losing interest or leaving you.You're attached to your phone waiting for them to message on high alert. You need constant reassurance or nitpick fights to get it.
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You’re unable to process your emotions & triggers, perhaps having emotional convo’s or sending long texts about how you feel without clearly communicating what you need from them so they are just confused
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You feel rejected when they are unavailable or online not messaging you, you expect them to spend all their time & focus on you. You have given up your interests to be with them & keep yourself very available for them, even cancelling plans with friends.
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You put up with shitty behaviour that doesn’t make you feel good but you aren’t able to communicate clear boundaries & stick to them. You struggle to walk away even when you know you should, infact, begging them to stay
Emma's story...
Before Emma came to me, she was single & anxious in her relationships. She was attracting emotionally unavailable partners & working hard to impress them. She over-attached early to new partners & people pleased
Whilst working together, we worked on healing the root cause of her anxiety, building self-trust, learning to meet her needs & setting boundaries without guilt.
I encouraged her to date to practice not over-attaching which she did successfully, we worked on breaking her patterns of picking partners that couldn't meet her needs & then she met a healthy partner that was emotionally available.
She continued to keep meeting her needs throughout the relationship, keeping her identity & being herself. When she experienced anxiety/triggers, she was able to work through them without sabotaging the relationship & was also able to communicate her needs clearly without conflict because she had found safety in herself.
You can listen to more about this directly from Emma, on my Podcast F*CK Trauma
UPDATE: Emma is now in a healthy relationship yay!
Hey, i'm candice
A Trauma & mindset coach, dedicated to guiding you to having healthy relationships with yourself & others.
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I specialise in attachment trauma, anxious attachment style in particular.
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Why? because I was anxiously attached too.
I had a deep fear of abandonment from childhood & even though I knew I had experienced a lot of trauma as a child, I had no idea about attachment styles.
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It's wild how little information & support is out there on them, you could be in therapy for years & they wouldn't even mention them. Yet, they are literally the exact reason we struggle to have healthy relationships with ourselves & others.
For years, I stayed in toxic relationships, clinging hold of them because I now know, my abandonment wound was so triggered. I attracted partners that couldn't meet my needs, but I begged, pleaded & worked hard to try to make it work. Losing myself at the same time. I sabotaged relationships with needy behaviour, putting all my focus on them as I had no idea how to make me happy. I had no idea what a boundary was so kept myself super available & that meant also putting up with shitty behaviour. I was riddled with anxiety & anxious thoughts, overthinking every interaction, waiting by my phone for their text & needing constant reassurance.
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Honestly, I thought I was crazy!!
This was all before I knew it was coming from my trauma & abandonment wound. Once I knew I was anxiously attached, I was able to work on healing my abandonment wound, changing my patterns & reprogramming my mind & nervous system to receive healthy love without anxiety.
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I built my self-trust & now I'm a secure attachment style, able to have healthy attachments that make me feel safe & good. And better yet, I make myself feel safe, I honour my needs first & I no longer accept anything that doesn't bring me value as I now know my worth.
And best of all, I get to guide my clients to finding safety in themselves so that they can have the healthy, loving relationships they deserve. I get long lasting transformational results for my clients because I am in your head with you as I have literally been there, I know exactly how you feel & I also know the path to get you out.
I use my signature method that I used to heal myself & have now used on hundreds of clients in this mastermind.
This is for you if...
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You know you have an anxious attachment style /abandonment wound & are ready to work on healing it so that you can have the healthy, loving relationships you deserve
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You are single & would like to find a partner but you attract partners that can't meet your needs & treat you how you deserve. You over-attach early, ignore red flags but put all your eggs in their basket, get very preoccupied with them easily without much effort on their part, only for them to pull away leaving you anxious, wondering what you did.
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You are in a relationship but know you are sabotaging it with your anxiety, feeling needy & overthinking every interaction, putting pressure on your partner, suppressing your needs to please them & unable to communicate assertively without it turning into a conflict
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Ready to have the safe, loving relationships that you deserve?
introducing the
secure mastermind
A 3 month supportive & expansive container to guide you to feeling secure in you & your relationships.
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A mastermind is a beautiful hybrid between 1:1 & group coaching. It is the most supportive way to evolve on your path to feeling secure in yourself & in your relationships with 1:1 personal, tailored coaching with Candice in a safe, supportive container and your very own cheerleading squad every step of the way.
When one of you gets coached, you all get coached. It’s a place of sharing & expansion. You’ll learn more about yourself + your relationships than any other way.
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On each group call, you will get the opportunity to have personal tailored 1:1 coaching.
Not only that, but you get direct access to me through group voxer, AND 1 exclusive, 1:1 call with me per 3 months
AND.. you will have access to my signature program ANXIOUS TO SECURE IN LOVE for you to complete at your own pace as well as other trainings to shape your experience & growth.
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My prices for 1:1 coaching start a lot higher, so this is absolutely the most affordable way to have my guidance on your healing journey to feeling secure in yourself & your relationships. This is a super safe, intimate container with no judgement at all, everyone is in the same position as you which will bring you so much comfort.
The secure mastermind kicks off MID NOVEMBER 2023 for 3months of unbelievable support & expansion
what does the content cover?
access to my signature 10 module anxious to secure program
over the time of the mastermind you
will get guidance on:
> Your dating/relationships
> Your relationship with self
> healing your inner wounds
> Your core needs & needs in relationships
> Boundaries in all of your relationships
> How to communicate your needs & boundaries
> Working through your triggers/anxiety
> Your identity, what makes you happy
and so much more...
This is your safe space for tailored guidance on your journey to feeling secure in yourself & in your relationshipS Using my signature tried & tested method that has guided hundreds of incredible clients to the secure love they deserve, and you do too.
Meet Claire
How Claire went from feeling lost & begging for bare minimum attention from others to feeling secure & recognising her value in self
I can establish boundaries, and I no longer base my self worth on the opinions of others. I know I am not asking for too much, and the right person will understand that, and stay. I feel comfortable being me.
"Before the Anxious to Secure in Love group program, I was so lost on who I was as a person. My entire value was defined by if I was in a relationship.I found myself begging for the attention of my potential partners, sending paragraphs, and clinging to the smallest bit of effort because i thought it was all I deserved. I had no boundaries; no idea what I wanted in an ideal partner, and wasn't exhibiting ideal partner behaviour on my end. I was anxious, needy, and spiraling.
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Now, after the program I feel like a completely different person. I am now so in tune with myself, my needs, my feelings, and what I want out of my romantic and platonic relationships. I can establish boundaries, and I no longer base my self worth on the opinions of others. I know I am not asking for too much, and the right person will understand that, and stay. I feel comfortable being me.
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I would say to anyone on the fence..100% do it!! it's life changing. I had never once DONE the work. I always knew I needed to "Do the work" but I had NO clue what that entailed or where to start. Candice's program helped me to truly love myself, an in turn, learn what I deserve. I also learned ;so much about communicating boundaries, how to navigate family relationships, and, was given the tools to cope when I am triggered. Candice is amazing and worth every penny!"
- Claire
The image is not an accurate photo of my client to protect my client's identity due to the sensitive nature of my work
inside the mastermind
> 3 X LIVE GROUP HOT SEAT COACHING CALLS
with Candice per month
> 1 X 1:1 60MIN CALL WITH CANDICE
anytime in the 3months
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> GROUP VOXER CHAT AT YOUR FINGERTIPS for daily voicenote/text support
> ACCESS TO ANXIOUS TO SECURE IN LOVE
my signature 10 module program including custom tools & techniques
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​> BRAND NEW MODULE: SELF-CONCEPT -
Our self-concept is our beliefs about ourselves that create our relationships & how we are treated in them. Often these beliefs are subconscious & created in childhood but impacting our current relationships. I honestly believe this is the missing piece to filling the voids as anxious attachment and embodying a secure attachment. This module has been tailored specifically for reprogramming anxious attachment beliefs subconsciously & consciously.
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> Access to all my MASTERCLASSES (The Anxious + Avoidant Trap, Overcoming Overthinking, Needy No More, Who Are You Really? Money Mindset Makeover, Silencing the Inner Critic) & any other trainings released over the 3 months
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Meet Ania
How Ania went from being anxiously attached to situation ships to finding her peace
I feel like I really gained myself back through this program, and am so incredibly glad I took the leap and signed up. It’s given me peace again.
"When I started the Anxious to Secure in Love group program I was on the heels of a major let down of a situation ship, reeling with anxiety, confused about where I had gone wrong, and with very little self compassion. I was easily swooned by empty words, and attention, and feeling like I would really take anything I could get for attention. From friends and love interests.
Now after the program, I feel so grounded in myself, who I am, and how normal my desires really are. I feel comfortable asking questions while getting to know someone without the anxiety or emotional charge, I don’t feel the need to explain myself or send long messages conveying my hurt or frustrations, and it feels soooo much easier to walk away from a situation that isn’t good for me. I also just feel more grounded in my day to day life, which has impacted how I make decisions overall. I don’t feel panicked or anxious like I was feeling a lot last year. I also don’t feel pushy about getting my needs met, I feel more comfortable communicating them, and asking if that’s something they can do. Instead of just leaving it alone and hoping for the best, I can ask and find out and decide what I will do with that information.
I really stumbled upon Candice's program and wasn’t sure what to expect, I was skeptical. I feel like I really gained myself back through it, and am so incredibly glad I took the leap and signed up. It’s given me peace again."
- Ania
The image is not an accurate photo of my client to protect my client's identity due to the sensitive nature of my work
My love, you have two options..
Continue going at it alone & try to break your patterns yourself over time with painful lessons, & in the meantime getting stuck in relationships that don't serve you or worse toxic, or sabotaging your relationships by pushing them away with your anxious behaviour
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Try a tried & tested method that actually works to guide you to feeling more secure in yourself & your relationships in a short amount of time & giving you the tools to be able to manage your anxiety going forward so that you can have healthy & loving relationships & actually enjoy them!
YOUR INVESTMENT IN YOU
enrolling now for mid-november Start, LIVE calls take place on Tuesdays at 7pm UK time
STANDARD
3x group mastermind calls per month,
group voxer PLUS 1 x 1:1 call
Paid in Full
£1888
Around $2290
Payment Plans
3 months x £644pm
6 months x £329pm
12 months x £168pm
SUPPORTED
ALL of standard package plus PRIVATE 1:1 voxer access via voicenote/text support throughout the program
Paid in Full
£2222
Around $2695
Payment Plans
3 months x £755pm
6 months x £385pm
12 months x £196pm
The Gamechanger
Same as standard package PLUS 2 x 1:1 calls AND private 1:1 voxer support with Candice
Paid in Full
£2555
(Around $3099)
Payment Plans
3 months x £866pm
6 months x £440pm
12 months x £223pm
ON THE FENCE? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CANDICE TO CHECK IT'S A GOOD FIT FOR YOU
BOOK A FREE 15MIN CALL TO CHECK THIS IS A
GOOD FIT FOR YOU
Meet Andreea
How Andreea went from being anxiously attached to a situationship, excusing their poor behaviour to feeling confident & secure in self & dating
Everyone close to me has remarked just how much I've changed and internally I feel it even more strongly. Truly, it's been a life changing process that I will always be grateful for.
"Before I started working with Candice, I was going through a "situationship". The guy had told me from the beginning that he had just come out of a long term relationship recently and that he didn't have the capacity to get involved in a new one yet. He had also recently lost his father and was overwhelmed at work. I was in a much better place and convinced myself that I didn't care about a label on a relationship as long as I got along well with the person. And while that might be true, I allowed myself to use his situation as a justification for his increasingly poor behaviour. He was very avoidantly attached - would not reply for weeks at a time, would gaslight me into believing I was crazy, would have me walk on eggshells and have an emotional meltdown if he got triggered, which happened almost every time we met. His behaviour triggered my anxious attachment to a level I had not experienced before. I pride myself in being very calm and logical, but I would find myself obsessing over the texts I wasn't receiving from him. That's what pushed me to seek a deeper understanding of what was actually going on and lead me to finding Candice.
She helped me understand that a lot of the behaviours I was exhibiting as an adult (people pleasing, not setting boundaries, appeasing, finding excuses for other people's poor behaviour) actually come from unhealed childhood wounds that we identified together. Finding the source and identifying the patterns I was exhibiting helped me in ways I never even thought would be related - it completely transformed my relationship with my family members and helped me understand them better, it improved my career by addressing the occasional imposter syndrome and of course vastly improved my dating life by helping me identify red flags early on and making my needs and expectations a priority.
I don't think I could recommend working with Candice enough, I think it's single handedly the best investment I've ever made in myself. For anyone who's gone through therapy or learnt about attachment styles, it's easy to make a distinction between life before and after the revelation. Everyone close to me has remarked just how much I've changed and internally I feel it even more strongly. Truly, it's been a life changing process that I will always be grateful for."
- Andreea
The image is not an accurate photo of my client to protect my client's identity due to the sensitive nature of my work
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What is the difference between coaching & therapy?Therapy is great for talking about your feelings, trauma events & processing your emotions but it doesn't give you the path or action steps to move past the trauma, to get you to where you want to be. Coaching is this gap, it is results driven & requires action. It is designed to get you from where you are to where you want to be. My coaching also addresses/heals the trauma & then moves you forward. A lot of my clients have been in therapy for years & haven't seen results, after just a few months working with me, they make changes in their lives/minds that they NEVER thought they would.
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What's included with private coaching?> 3 x 1:1 60min sessions via video call with Candice per month > Unlimited private voxer voicenote/text support with Candice > Fieldwork & worksheets inbetween sessions > Tools & techniques for self-coaching
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How will sessions take place?They are all online over video call on zoom
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What if I'm in another country?No problem, I work with clients all around the world in different time zones so that isn't a problem, we will be able to find a time that suits.
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Do you offer one session at a time?I don't, my coaching is based on getting you results and guides you through a tried & tested model which I can only guarantee results once followed for a certain amount of time.
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I can't afford 1:1 coaching at the moment, is there an alternative?Yes, I created The Secure Mastermind which is a beautiful hybrid of 1:1 & group coaching at an affordable price. For more details click the button below:
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What is voxer support?Voxer is a free app that allows you to voice note or text me directly outside of our sessions for any guidance that you may need or want to work through. This is your private access to me throughout our container for your maximum support & growth.
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Not seen the answer to your question here.....No problem, book a free 15min call on the link above & I will answer any questions you have, alternatively contact me on hello@candicetamaracoaching.com
Meet Jess
How jess went from her ex calling her needy to feeling self-assured & attracting a healthy relationship
The calmness and security I have in my relationships and myself is invaluable. You can’t put a dollar amount on it. I’m so glad I committed myself to this program.ed & calmer about this, in a better mood, seeing how little things can make an impact.
"Before working with Candice, I had been on dating apps for a couple years with very little success. I knew from 2 years of therapy that I had a pretty bad anxious attachment style but I still always found a reason to blame the guy for why it didn’t work out. I didn't realize it at the time but it was a coping skill to make sure I never had to focus inward on my contributions of why it wasn’t working.
I would classify myself as hyper independent and very successful in my career. When evaluating my life, I realized everything I had control over, meaning I didn’t need to rely on anyone else, I was doing very well at. But any place in life where I had to be vulnerable, rely on others and build relationships with them, I was struggling.
The final straw for me to sign up for your program was receiving feedback from someone I dated and still really care about. We went to dinner about 4 months after ending things and he shared that he felt like I needed a lot of reassurance in our relationship and I was always pushing him for more. He said he never felt like he could do enough to make me happy. That same week, I saw a TikTok of Candice that spoke to me and I reached out for a 15 minute video chat.
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The most tangible thing I experienced while working with Candice was healing my relationship with my dad. We had a pretty strained relationship for a lot of years and I knew it was impacting my attachment style. It was surface level and we typically only discussed my career. I realized I felt like I had to perform to get his attention. We had some tough conversations while in this program and today we talk almost every day. He makes an effort to come stay with me, we spend more 1x1 time together and I don’t even remember the last time we talked about my career.
The other theme that came up a lot when working together was my confidence and how much I struggled with my appearance. Most of the time I didn't even believe the men I was dating found me attractive. We started in childhood and uncovered memories I had of many people commenting on my weight, including family members. Through working together I not only set firmer boundaries with those family members, who were still impacting my confidence, but I also took better care of my health and lost 40 lbs while we were working together.
The most intangible thing I’m experiencing now that we’re at the end of the program is the calmness and security I have in myself. I keep referring to it as my “soft girl era”. I used to always be focused on my salary and promotions, working for what number I wanted on my next offer letter. I now care about doing a good job and enjoying my day but I make sure I log out at 5pm. I’ve found more time to support and care for those around me. I’ve fallen in love with skincare, cooking for others and looking for other ways to take care of myself. I’m almost 33 so in the past I’ve put a lot of pressure on myself to hurry up and find a husband. Now, I enjoy my own company and don’t have much interest in dating at the moment.
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It was so easy to open up to Candice and get to the root of the issues I was experiencing. I remember at one point saying to you, "how are we going to fix all of these life-long challenges in just a few weeks?" Candice reassured me that once they’re identified, I'd be amazed at how fast we can work through it and she was right. I really didn’t think I’d be as far as long as I am after just 8 sessions.
One thing that kept me on the fence for a while was the financial investment, and that’s what you have to look at as, an investment. The calmness and security I have in my relationships and myself is invaluable. You can’t put a dollar amount on it. I’m so glad I committed myself to this program.
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There’s not a day goes by that I don’t thank myself for making that first appointment and deciding to work with Candice.
I also think it's important for anyone deciding to do this program to understand that it’s unrealistic to be “100% healed” and think you’ll never feel anxious in relationships again. There are many days I still have to check in myself because I feel anxious about something. But I’m able to see it for what it is now and I challenge my thought process. I now have tools to recenter myself, check in my inner child and I come back to a neutral and secure place."
- Jess
The image is not an accurate photo of my client to protect my client's identity due to the sensitive nature of my work