CANDICE TAMARA
1:1 COACHING
WITH CANDICE
ready to free yourself from the past, fall in love with you & create healthy & secure
relationships without anxiety?
Just imagine...
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No longer having daily anxiety, instead knowing how to regulate, moderate & move through anxious thoughts & feelings when they come up
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Creating healthy, loving relationships that you feel secure in, self-assured & no longer filled with anxiety/doubts & totally able to communicate your needs clearly
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Trusting you and your intuition with full faith - able to face your fears rather than let them control you
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Breaking free from self sabotaging patterns & living authentically with full self acceptance & compassion.
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Putting yourself first without guilt, communicating your needs & boundaries assertively with ease, only having relationships in your life that are adding value to you
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Knowing & loving yourself so much that you don’t feel like you have to change yourself in order to fit in, you’re fully connected & accepting of who you are naturally
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Not wasting time & energy overthinking every interaction, holding yourself back & worrying about others opinions
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Mastering your mindset to change negative self talk/thoughts into kind & empowering ones.
Right now you are..
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You are an overachiever, that has worked so hard to achieve so much but doesn’t feel like you're enough, often seen as the 'strong' one by others, your self-critical, put everyone first before you & you change yourself to please others
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You are unsure of what your needs are or how to make you happy so you are putting that pressure on the other person, perhaps they say you are too 'needy' or 'clingy'
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You attract partners that are emotionally unavailable & unable to meet your needs, perhaps things are good at first but then they pull away when you get close. You get very anxious when they pull away, chasing after them, asking them what you did & working harder for their attention
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You overthink every interaction looking for signs their losing interest or leaving you.You're attached to your phone waiting for them to message on high alert. You need constant reassurance or nitpick fights to get it.
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You over-attach very quickly to new partners, ignoring red flags as they make you feel good and giving them all your attention as you think they are the ONE, without them having to prove anything
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You’re unable to process your emotions & triggers, perhaps having emotional convo’s or sending long texts about how you feel without clearly communicating what you need from them so they are just confused
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You feel rejected when they are unavailable or online not messaging you, you expect them to spend all their time & focus on you. You have given up your interests to be with them & keep yourself very available for them, even cancelling plans with friends.
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You have no idea what boundaries are or how to communicate them clearly without conflict & stick to them
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You put up with shitty behaviour that doesn’t make you feel good, you struggle to walk away even when you know you should, infact, begging them to stay
Emma's story...
Before Emma came to me, she was single & anxious in her relationships. She was attracting emotionally unavailable partners & working hard to impress them. She over-attached early to new partners & people pleased
Whilst working together, we worked on healing the root cause of her anxiety, building self-trust, learning to meet her needs & setting boundaries without guilt.
I encouraged her to date to practice not over-attaching which she did successfully, we worked on breaking her patterns of picking partners that couldn't meet her needs & then she met a healthy partner that was emotionally available.
She continued to keep meeting her needs throughout the relationship, keeping her identity & being herself. When she experienced anxiety/triggers, she was able to work through them without sabotaging the relationship & was also able to communicate her needs clearly without conflict because she had found safety in herself.
You can listen to more about this directly from Emma, on my Podcast F*CK Trauma
Hey, i'm candice
A Trauma & mindset coach, dedicated to guiding you to having healthy relationships with yourself & others.
I experienced a lot of a trauma as a child & grew up in a very dysfunctional family (see 'about' page for more details)
and as a result...I didn't even know what love was, let alone self love
I was filled with fear & anxiety, I was making incredibly painful decisions based on fear - staying in toxic relationships, letting people walk all over me, feeling needy, I had no idea what a boundary was, I had extremely low self worth and it showed.
Self sabotage might as well had been my middle name, people pleasing, striving for perfection, negative self talk & thoughts... you name it, I had to overcome it.
Now? I have healthy, secure relationships with myself & others. I make healthy decisions based on deep self love for myself, not fear or guilt anymore. I have strong boundaries, I have learnt to manage & heal my anxiety & I feel unbelievable peace, positivity & happiness.
It took me over 20+ years to get here but I don't want it to take so long for you, lord knows...it's painful.
That's exactly why I have designed this 1:1 program.
I use my signature method that I used to heal myself & have now used on hundreds of clients in this 1:1 program whilst tailoring it to your individual needs.
it's time to stop..
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Pushing people away - constantly doubting them and needing reassurance, making them feel like you don't trust them & showing it by looking for evidence on their phone or social media
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Accepting shitty behaviour - making excuses for peoples lack of effort, not setting your standard & acting like the prize that you are, staying in unfulfilled, toxic relationships
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Being a doormat - not having clear boundaries and asserting yourself, over giving and feeling resentful for it, getting little in return.
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Torturing yourself - with self doubts, negative thoughts and comparison, picking yourself apart whilst being kinder to everyone else on the planet
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Feeling needy - ignoring you & your needs, not trusting yourself and not filling you up, instead trusting everyone else and relying on others to fill you up
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Bending yourself backwards - to please others, walking on eggshells, changing you to fit in, obsessing over what people think
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Letting fear & anxiety win - being controlled by it, making decisions based on it..not today hunny!!
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Giving your power away - relying on others to reassure & validate your worth, pinning your worth to another's action, opinions, interest in you, kisses at the end of a text, anything but your actual worth...which is sky high lovely, let me show you.
introducing
path to self-love
The ultimate 1:1 coaching container for those looking to love their authentic selves first & create happy & healthy lives & relationships with less anxiety
Release the fears, beliefs, anxieties and self sabotaging patterns that have been holding you back for years in just months
Using my signature method we will work on:
> Healing your inner wounds
>Your dating/relationships
> Your relationship with self
> Your core needs & needs in relationships
> Boundaries in all of your relationships
> How to communicate your needs & boundaries
> Working through your triggers/anxiety
> Your identity, what makes you happy
and so much more...
This is your safe space for tailored guidance on your journey to feeling secure in yourself & in your relationships using my signature tried & tested method that has guided hundreds of incredible clients to the loving relationships they deserve, and you do too.
PLUS...
access to my signature 10 module anxious to secure program worth £1555
JESS'S STORY
How jess went from her ex calling her needy to feeling confident & self-assured
"The calmness and security I have in my relationships and myself is invaluable. You can’t put a dollar amount on it. I’m so glad I committed myself to this program "
LISTEN TO FULL INTERVIEW ON F*CK TRAUMA PODCAST
my approach
I'm certified in:
> Trauma Informed (Impacts on the mind, body & sense of self)
> Neuro Linguistic Programming - NLP (unblocking & reframing the mindset)
> Dealing with Narcissism
> Inner Child Healing
> Emotional Freedom Tapping (EFT)
> Life Coaching
I use a combination of tools & techniques to get you the best results:
Coaching / Inner Child Healing / NLP / Trauma Work / Energy Work / Self-coaching / EFT / Breath-work / Visualization / Shadow Work / Somatic work
My programs are results driven to ensure you get the results you want
And, are designed to give you years worth of healing in just months!!
CLAIRE'S STORY
How Claire went from feeling lost & begging for bare minimum attention from others to feeling secure & recognising her value in self
"I can establish boundaries, and I no longer base my self worth on the opinions of others. I know I am not asking for too much, and the right person will understand that, and stay. I feel comfortable being me."
My love, you have two options..
Continue going at it alone & try to break your patterns yourself over time with painful lessons, & in the meantime getting stuck in relationships that don't serve you or worse toxic, or sabotaging your relationships by pushing them away with your anxious behaviour
OR
Try a tried & tested method that actually works to guide you to feeling more secure in yourself & your relationships in a short amount of time & giving you the tools to be able to manage your anxiety going forward so that you can have healthy & loving relationships & actually enjoy them!
YOUR INVESTMENT IN YOU
I ONLY OFFER MY 1:1 SERVICES IN PACKAGES AS MY SERVICES ARE BASED ON YOUR LONG TERM TRANSFORMATION WHICH CAN ONLY BE GUARENTEED AFTER A CERTAIN AMOUNT OF TIME FOLLOWING THE PROCESS
3 months
3 x 1:1 calls per month &
unlimited private voxer support
Paid in Full
£3555
Payment Plans
3 months x £1199pm
6 months x £607pm
12 months x £307pm
6 months
3 x 1:1 calls per month &
unlimited private voxer support
Paid in Full
£7000
Payment Plans
3 months x £2348pm
6 months x £1181pm
12 months x £594pm
BOOK A FREE 15MIN CALL TO CHECK THIS IS A
GOOD FIT FOR YOU
Meet Andreea
How Andreea went from being anxiously attached to a situationship, excusing their poor behaviour to feeling confident & secure in self & dating
Everyone close to me has remarked just how much I've changed and internally I feel it even more strongly. Truly, it's been a life changing process that I will always be grateful for.
"Before I started working with Candice, I was going through a "situationship". The guy had told me from the beginning that he had just come out of a long term relationship recently and that he didn't have the capacity to get involved in a new one yet. He had also recently lost his father and was overwhelmed at work. I was in a much better place and convinced myself that I didn't care about a label on a relationship as long as I got along well with the person. And while that might be true, I allowed myself to use his situation as a justification for his increasingly poor behaviour. He was very avoidantly attached - would not reply for weeks at a time, would gaslight me into believing I was crazy, would have me walk on eggshells and have an emotional meltdown if he got triggered, which happened almost every time we met. His behaviour triggered my anxious attachment to a level I had not experienced before. I pride myself in being very calm and logical, but I would find myself obsessing over the texts I wasn't receiving from him. That's what pushed me to seek a deeper understanding of what was actually going on and lead me to finding Candice.
She helped me understand that a lot of the behaviours I was exhibiting as an adult (people pleasing, not setting boundaries, appeasing, finding excuses for other people's poor behaviour) actually come from unhealed childhood wounds that we identified together. Finding the source and identifying the patterns I was exhibiting helped me in ways I never even thought would be related - it completely transformed my relationship with my family members and helped me understand them better, it improved my career by addressing the occasional imposter syndrome and of course vastly improved my dating life by helping me identify red flags early on and making my needs and expectations a priority.
I don't think I could recommend working with Candice enough, I think it's single handedly the best investment I've ever made in myself. For anyone who's gone through therapy or learnt about attachment styles, it's easy to make a distinction between life before and after the revelation. Everyone close to me has remarked just how much I've changed and internally I feel it even more strongly. Truly, it's been a life changing process that I will always be grateful for."
UPDATE: Andreea is now in a committed relationship with the man she wants to marry
- Andreea
The image is not an accurate photo of my client to protect my client's identity due to the sensitive nature of my work
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What is the difference between coaching & therapy?Therapy is great for talking about your feelings, trauma events & processing your emotions but it doesn't give you the path or action steps to move past the trauma, to get you to where you want to be. Coaching is this gap, it is results driven & requires action. It is designed to get you from where you are to where you want to be. My coaching also addresses/heals the trauma & then moves you forward. A lot of my clients have been in therapy for years & haven't seen results, after just a few months working with me, they make changes in their lives/minds that they NEVER thought they would.
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What's included with private coaching?> 3 x 1:1 60min sessions via video call with Candice per month > Unlimited private voxer voicenote/text support with Candice > Fieldwork & worksheets inbetween sessions > Tools & techniques for self-coaching
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How will sessions take place?They are all online over video call on zoom
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What if I'm in another country?No problem, I work with clients all around the world in different time zones so that isn't a problem, we will be able to find a time that suits.
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Do you offer one session at a time?I don't, my coaching is based on getting you results and guides you through a tried & tested model which I can only guarantee results once followed for a certain amount of time.
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I can't afford 1:1 coaching at the moment, is there an alternative?Yes, I created The Secure Mastermind which is a beautiful hybrid of 1:1 & group coaching at an affordable price. For more details click the button below:
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What is voxer support?Voxer is a free app that allows you to voice note or text me directly outside of our sessions for any guidance that you may need or want to work through. This is your private access to me throughout our container for your maximum support & growth.
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Not seen the answer to your question here.....No problem, book a free 15min call on the link above & I will answer any questions you have, alternatively contact me on hello@candicetamaracoaching.com