CANDICE TAMARA
1:1 COACHING
WITH CANDICE
ready to free yourself from the past, fall in love with you & create healthy & secure
relationships without anxiety?
Just imagine...
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No longer having daily anxiety, instead knowing how to regulate, moderate & move through anxious thoughts & feelings when they come up
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Creating healthy, loving relationships that you feel secure in, self-assured & no longer filled with anxiety/doubts & totally able to communicate your needs clearly
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Trusting you and your intuition with full faith - able to face your fears rather than let them control you
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Breaking free from self sabotaging patterns & living authentically with full self acceptance & compassion.
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Putting yourself first without guilt, communicating your needs & boundaries assertively with ease, only having relationships in your life that are adding value to you
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Knowing & loving yourself so much that you don’t feel like you have to change yourself in order to fit in, you’re fully connected & accepting of who you are naturally
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Not wasting time & energy overthinking every interaction, holding yourself back & worrying about others opinions
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Mastering your mindset to change negative self talk/thoughts into kind & empowering ones.
Right now you are..
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You are an overachiever, that has worked so hard to achieve so much but doesn’t feel like you're enough, often seen as the 'strong' one by others, your self-critical, put everyone first before you & you change yourself to please others
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You are unsure of what your needs are or how to make you happy so you are putting that pressure on the other person, perhaps they say you are too 'needy' or 'clingy'
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You attract partners that are emotionally unavailable & unable to meet your needs, perhaps things are good at first but then they pull away when you get close. You get very anxious when they pull away, chasing after them, asking them what you did & working harder for their attention
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You overthink every interaction looking for signs their losing interest or leaving you.You're attached to your phone waiting for them to message on high alert. You need constant reassurance or nitpick fights to get it.
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You over-attach very quickly to new partners, ignoring red flags as they make you feel good and giving them all your attention as you think they are the ONE, without them having to prove anything
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You’re unable to process your emotions & triggers, perhaps having emotional convo’s or sending long texts about how you feel without clearly communicating what you need from them so they are just confused
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You feel rejected when they are unavailable or online not messaging you, you expect them to spend all their time & focus on you. You have given up your interests to be with them & keep yourself very available for them, even cancelling plans with friends.
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You have no idea what boundaries are or how to communicate them clearly without conflict & stick to them
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You put up with shitty behaviour that doesn’t make you feel good, you struggle to walk away even when you know you should, infact, begging them to stay
Emma's story...
Before Emma came to me, she was single & anxious in her relationships. She was attracting emotionally unavailable partners & working hard to impress them. She over-attached early to new partners & people pleased
Whilst working together, we worked on healing the root cause of her anxiety, building self-trust, learning to meet her needs & setting boundaries without guilt.
I encouraged her to date to practice not over-attaching which she did successfully, we worked on breaking her patterns of picking partners that couldn't meet her needs & then she met a healthy partner that was emotionally available.
She continued to keep meeting her needs throughout the relationship, keeping her identity & being herself. When she experienced anxiety/triggers, she was able to work through them without sabotaging the relationship & was also able to communicate her needs clearly without conflict because she had found safety in herself.
You can listen to more about this directly from Emma, on my Podcast F*CK Trauma
Hey, i'm candice
A Trauma & mindset coach, dedicated to guiding you to having healthy relationships with yourself & others.
I experienced a lot of a trauma as a child & grew up in a very dysfunctional family (see 'about' page for more details)
and as a result...I didn't even know what love was, let alone self love
I was filled with fear & anxiety, I was making incredibly painful decisions based on fear - staying in toxic relationships, letting people walk all over me, feeling needy, I had no idea what a boundary was, I had extremely low self worth and it showed.
Self sabotage might as well had been my middle name, people pleasing, striving for perfection, negative self talk & thoughts... you name it, I had to overcome it.
Now? I have healthy, secure relationships with myself & others. I make healthy decisions based on deep self love for myself, not fear or guilt anymore. I have strong boundaries, I have learnt to manage & heal my anxiety & I feel unbelievable peace, positivity & happiness.
It took me over 20+ years to get here but I don't want it to take so long for you, lord knows...it's painful.
That's exactly why I have designed this 1:1 program.
I use my signature method that I used to heal myself & have now used on hundreds of clients in this 1:1 program whilst tailoring it to your individual needs.
it's time to stop..
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Pushing people away - constantly doubting them and needing reassurance, making them feel like you don't trust them & showing it by looking for evidence on their phone or social media
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Accepting shitty behaviour - making excuses for peoples lack of effort, not setting your standard & acting like the prize that you are, staying in unfulfilled, toxic relationships
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Being a doormat - not having clear boundaries and asserting yourself, over giving and feeling resentful for it, getting little in return.
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Torturing yourself - with self doubts, negative thoughts and comparison, picking yourself apart whilst being kinder to everyone else on the planet
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Feeling needy - ignoring you & your needs, not trusting yourself and not filling you up, instead trusting everyone else and relying on others to fill you up
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Bending yourself backwards - to please others, walking on eggshells, changing you to fit in, obsessing over what people think
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Letting fear & anxiety win - being controlled by it, making decisions based on it..not today hunny!!
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Giving your power away - relying on others to reassure & validate your worth, pinning your worth to another's action, opinions, interest in you, kisses at the end of a text, anything but your actual worth...which is sky high lovely, let me show you.
introducing
path to self-love
The ultimate 1:1 coaching container for those looking to love their authentic selves first & create happy & healthy lives & relationships with less anxiety
Release the fears, beliefs, anxieties and self sabotaging patterns that have beenholding you back for years in just months
Using my signature method we will work on:
> healing your inner wounds
>Your dating/relationships
> Your relationship with self
> Your core needs & needs in relationships
> Boundaries in all of your relationships
> How to communicate your needs & boundaries
> Working through your triggers/anxiety
> Your identity, what makes you happy
and so much more...
This is your safe space for tailored guidance on your journey to feeling secure in yourself & in your relationships using my signature tried & tested method that has guided hundreds of incredible clients to the loving relationships they deserve, and you do too.
Meet Claire
How Claire went from feeling lost & begging for bare minimum attention from others to feeling secure & recognising her value in self
I can establish boundaries, and I no longer base my self worth on the opinions of others. I know I am not asking for too much, and the right person will understand that, and stay. I feel comfortable being me.
"Before the Anxious to Secure in Love group program, I was so lost on who I was as a person. My entire value was defined by if I was in a relationship.I found myself begging for the attention of my potential partners, sending paragraphs, and clinging to the smallest bit of effort because i thought it was all I deserved. I had no boundaries; no idea what I wanted in an ideal partner, and wasn't exhibiting ideal partner behaviour on my end. I was anxious, needy, and spiraling.
Now, after the program I feel like a completely different person. I am now so in tune with myself, my needs, my feelings, and what I want out of my romantic and platonic relationships. I can establish boundaries, and I no longer base my self worth on the opinions of others. I know I am not asking for too much, and the right person will understand that, and stay. I feel comfortable being me.
I would say to anyone on the fence..100% do it!! it's life changing. I had never once DONE the work. I always knew I needed to "Do the work" but I had NO clue what that entailed or where to start. Candice's program helped me to truly love myself, an in turn, learn what I deserve. I also learned ;so much about communicating boundaries, how to navigate family relationships, and, was given the tools to cope when I am triggered. Candice is amazing and worth every penny!"
- Claire
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my approach
I'm certified in:
> Trauma Informed (Impacts on the mind, body & sense of self)
> Neuro Linguistic Programming - NLP (unblocking & reframing the mindset)
> Dealing with Narcissism
> Inner Child Healing
> Emotional Freedom Tapping (EFT)
> Life Coaching
I use a combination of tools & techniques to get you the best results:
Coaching / Inner Child Healing / NLP / Trauma Work / Energy Work / Self-coaching / EFT / Breath-work / Visualization / Shadow Work
My programs are results driven to ensure you get the results you want
And, are designed to give you years worth of healing in just months!!
Meet Ania
How Ania went from being anxiously attached to situation ships to finding her peace
I feel like I really gained myself back through this program, and am so incredibly glad I took the leap and signed up. It’s given me peace again.
"When I started the Anxious to Secure in Love group program I was on the heels of a major let down of a situation ship, reeling with anxiety, confused about where I had gone wrong, and with very little self compassion. I was easily swooned by empty words, and attention, and feeling like I would really take anything I could get for attention. From friends and love interests.
Now after the program, I feel so grounded in myself, who I am, and how normal my desires really are. I feel comfortable asking questions while getting to know someone without the anxiety or emotional charge, I don’t feel the need to explain myself or send long messages conveying my hurt or frustrations, and it feels soooo much easier to walk away from a situation that isn’t good for me. I also just feel more grounded in my day to day life, which has impacted how I make decisions overall. I don’t feel panicked or anxious like I was feeling a lot last year. I also don’t feel pushy about getting my needs met, I feel more comfortable communicating them, and asking if that’s something they can do. Instead of just leaving it alone and hoping for the best, I can ask and find out and decide what I will do with that information.
I really stumbled upon Candice's program and wasn’t sure what to expect, I was skeptical. I feel like I really gained myself back through it, and am so incredibly glad I took the leap and signed up. It’s given me peace again."
- Ania
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My love, you have two options..
Continue going at it alone & try to break your patterns yourself over time with painful lessons, & in the meantime getting stuck in relationships that don't serve you or worse toxic, or sabotaging your relationships by pushing them away with your anxious behaviour
OR
Try a tried & tested method that actually works to guide you to feeling more secure in yourself & your relationships in a short amount of time & giving you the tools to be able to manage your anxiety going forward so that you can have healthy & loving relationships & actually enjoy them!
YOUR INVESTMENT IN YOU
I ONLY OFFER MY 1:1 SERVICES IN PACKAGES AS MY SERVICES ARE BASED ON YOUR LONG TERM TRANSFORMATION WHICH CAN ONLY BE GUARENTEED AFTER A CERTAIN AMOUNT OF TIME FOLLOWING THE PROCESS
3 months
3 x 1:1 calls per month &
unlimited private voxer support
Paid in Full
£3555
Payment Plans
3 months x £1199pm
6 months x £607pm
12 months x £307pm
6 months
3 x 1:1 calls per month &
unlimited private voxer support
Paid in Full
£7000
Payment Plans
3 months x £2348pm
6 months x £1181pm
12 months x £594pm
Meet Andreea
How Andreea went from being anxiously attached to a situationship, excusing their poor behaviour to feeling confident & secure in self & dating
Everyone close to me has remarked just how much I've changed and internally I feel it even more strongly. Truly, it's been a life changing process that I will always be grateful for.
"Before I started working with Candice, I was going through a "situationship". The guy had told me from the beginning that he had just come out of a long term relationship recently and that he didn't have the capacity to get involved in a new one yet. He had also recently lost his father and was overwhelmed at work. I was in a much better place and convinced myself that I didn't care about a label on a relationship as long as I got along well with the person. And while that might be true, I allowed myself to use his situation as a justification for his increasingly poor behaviour. He was very avoidantly attached - would not reply for weeks at a time, would gaslight me into believing I was crazy, would have me walk on eggshells and have an emotional meltdown if he got triggered, which happened almost every time we met. His behaviour triggered my anxious attachment to a level I had not experienced before. I pride myself in being very calm and logical, but I would find myself obsessing over the texts I wasn't receiving from him. That's what pushed me to seek a deeper understanding of what was actually going on and lead me to finding Candice.
She helped me understand that a lot of the behaviours I was exhibiting as an adult (people pleasing, not setting boundaries, appeasing, finding excuses for other people's poor behaviour) actually come from unhealed childhood wounds that we identified together. Finding the source and identifying the patterns I was exhibiting helped me in ways I never even thought would be related - it completely transformed my relationship with my family members and helped me understand them better, it improved my career by addressing the occasional imposter syndrome and of course vastly improved my dating life by helping me identify red flags early on and making my needs and expectations a priority.
I don't think I could recommend working with Candice enough, I think it's single handedly the best investment I've ever made in myself. For anyone who's gone through therapy or learnt about attachment styles, it's easy to make a distinction between life before and after the revelation. Everyone close to me has remarked just how much I've changed and internally I feel it even more strongly. Truly, it's been a life changing process that I will always be grateful for."
- Andreea
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Meet Jess
How jess went from her ex calling her needy to feeling self-assured & attracting a healthy relationship
The calmness and security I have in my relationships and myself is invaluable. You can’t put a dollar amount on it. I’m so glad I committed myself to this program.ed & calmer about this, in a better mood, seeing how little things can make an impact.
"Before working with Candice, I had been on dating apps for a couple years with very little success. I knew from 2 years of therapy that I had a pretty bad anxious attachment style but I still always found a reason to blame the guy for why it didn’t work out. I didn't realize it at the time but it was a coping skill to make sure I never had to focus inward on my contributions of why it wasn’t working.
I would classify myself as hyper independent and very successful in my career. When evaluating my life, I realized everything I had control over, meaning I didn’t need to rely on anyone else, I was doing very well at. But any place in life where I had to be vulnerable, rely on others and build relationships with them, I was struggling.
The final straw for me to sign up for your program was receiving feedback from someone I dated and still really care about. We went to dinner about 4 months after ending things and he shared that he felt like I needed a lot of reassurance in our relationship and I was always pushing him for more. He said he never felt like he could do enough to make me happy. That same week, I saw a TikTok of Candice that spoke to me and I reached out for a 15 minute video chat.
The most tangible thing I experienced while working with Candice was healing my relationship with my dad. We had a pretty strained relationship for a lot of years and I knew it was impacting my attachment style. It was surface level and we typically only discussed my career. I realized I felt like I had to perform to get his attention. We had some tough conversations while in this program and today we talk almost every day. He makes an effort to come stay with me, we spend more 1x1 time together and I don’t even remember the last time we talked about my career.
The other theme that came up a lot when working together was my confidence and how much I struggled with my appearance. Most of the time I didn't even believe the men I was dating found me attractive. We started in childhood and uncovered memories I had of many people commenting on my weight, including family members. Through working together I not only set firmer boundaries with those family members, who were still impacting my confidence, but I also took better care of my health and lost 40 lbs while we were working together.
The most intangible thing I’m experiencing now that we’re at the end of the program is the calmness and security I have in myself. I keep referring to it as my “soft girl era”. I used to always be focused on my salary and promotions, working for what number I wanted on my next offer letter. I now care about doing a good job and enjoying my day but I make sure I log out at 5pm. I’ve found more time to support and care for those around me. I’ve fallen in love with skincare, cooking for others and looking for other ways to take care of myself. I’m almost 33 so in the past I’ve put a lot of pressure on myself to hurry up and find a husband. Now, I enjoy my own company and don’t have much interest in dating at the moment.
It was so easy to open up to Candice and get to the root of the issues I was experiencing. I remember at one point saying to you, "how are we going to fix all of these life-long challenges in just a few weeks?" Candice reassured me that once they’re identified, I'd be amazed at how fast we can work through it and she was right. I really didn’t think I’d be as far as long as I am after just 8 sessions.
One thing that kept me on the fence for a while was the financial investment, and that’s what you have to look at as, an investment. The calmness and security I have in my relationships and myself is invaluable. You can’t put a dollar amount on it. I’m so glad I committed myself to this program.
There’s not a day goes by that I don’t thank myself for making that first appointment and deciding to work with Candice.
I also think it's important for anyone deciding to do this program to understand that it’s unrealistic to be “100% healed” and think you’ll never feel anxious in relationships again. There are many days I still have to check in myself because I feel anxious about something. But I’m able to see it for what it is now and I challenge my thought process. I now have tools to recenter myself, check in my inner child and I come back to a neutral and secure place."
- Jess
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