CANDICE TAMARA
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I KNOW YOU...
You’re ready to be in a relationship with someone who is emotionally available, consistent, and secure. Where you don’t have to guess if they like you—because they show you. Daily. With ease. And you finally trust it—because you trust yourself.
You're no longer watching your phone like your worth depends on it.
You're living your life—thriving in your career, showing up fully for yourself—
and love is just… flowing. Peaceful. Grounded. Real.
You can feel when something is off, but you don’t spiral.
You breathe. You check in. You know how to respond instead of react.
No more overexplaining, no more re-reading texts, no more chasing.
You know what your needs are—and you actually communicate them without the fear of scaring them off.
You don’t walk on eggshells. You walk in your power.
You’re not trying to be “chosen.”
You KNOW you are.
You no longer need someone to fill your cup—because it’s already full.
You’re attracting love from wholeness, not fear.
And every time your partner leans in closer, your nervous system says:
“I’m safe. I can receive this. I deserve this.”
This is secure love.
This is what you were always meant for.
BUT, RIGHT NOW...
You’re the one who looks like they’ve got it all together — The high-achiever. The strong one. The one everyone leans on — emotionally intelligent, self-aware, doing the work. You’ve read the books. You’ve journaled. Maybe you’ve even done years of therapy. But still… you find yourself asking:
“Why does love still feel so hard for me?”
You're constantly second-guessing yourself in dating — replaying conversations in your head, wondering what you did wrong
You're attracting emotionally unavailable partners who pull away just as things start to feel good
You're over-giving, overthinking, and constantly needing reassurance — even though you know it doesn’t feel good
You’ve tried to fix it.
You’ve gained the awareness.
But the patterns keep playing out — and it’s like your nervous system didn’t get the memo.
You lose yourself in relationships.
You chase their attention.
You spiral when they pull away.
You tell yourself not to be “too much” — but still feel like you always are.
You're Ignoring red flags because you're just relieved someone is kind of choosing you
You're constantly scanning for signs they’re losing interest
You're sending long emotional texts, hoping they’ll finally understand how much you care
And still… nothing feels enough.
You keep waiting for love to feel safe.
But instead, it feels like a rollercoaster.
You know you should set boundaries.
You know you should walk away from breadcrumbs.
But you can’t — because the fear of rejection or abandonment feels too real.
And deep down?
You’re exhausted.
Tired of working so hard to be chosen.
Tired of shrinking, proving, and performing.
IT'S TIME TO STOP..SO THAT YOU CAN HAVE & ENJOY SECURE, LOVING RELATIONSHIPS THAT YOU DESERVE
WHAT YOU ACTUALLY NEED TO BECOME SECURE IN LOVE...
1. Heal the Root (Inner Child Work):
You’ve been reacting from the wounded child inside — the one who didn’t feel chosen, who had to earn love, who was taught connection equals anxiety. Until you meet them, your adult self will keep playing out the same stories on repeat — chasing, overthinking, people-pleasing.
2. Regulate Your Nervous System & Reclaim Your Needs:
It’s not just in your head. The panic when they pull away, the shutdown after a text, the fear of being ‘too much’ — that’s your body bracing for abandonment. You need tools to calm your system, identify your real needs, communicate them with clarity, and set boundaries without guilt.
3. Rewire Your Self-Concept:
Your identity creates your love life. If deep down you believe you’re not chosen, not enough, or too hard to love — that’s what you’ll keep experiencing. We reprogram those beliefs at the subconscious level — so being secure becomes your new identity, not just something you try to “act like.”
AND WHEN YOU DO THIS, EVERYTHING SHIFTS:
You wake up without checking your phone in a panic.
You're no longer waiting for a text to feel okay — because you feel safe regardless of how someone else shows up.
You catch the spiral before it takes over.
Instead of rereading messages or obsessing over tone, you pause, breathe, and regulate. You’re no longer ruled by fear.
You say what you need — clearly, calmly, and without apology. You don’t worry if it’s “too much.” You know your needs are valid. And you trust that the right person wants to meet them.
You stop chasing love… and start receiving it.
You’re no longer proving, performing, or pretending. You’re grounded in who you are — and love mirrors that back to you.
You walk away from what doesn’t serve you — without begging, explaining, or convincing. You no longer make excuses for someone’s inconsistency. You don’t hope they change. You choose you.
You feel peace in your body when someone gets close.
You’re not bracing for rejection. You’re not preparing for the other shoe to drop. You can actually let love in.
THIS IS MINE & MY CLIENTS REALITY.
Because becoming securely attached isn’t a personality trait. It’s a skill. A method. A process. And once you learn it, you’ll never chase love again.
SO LET ME INTRODUCE YOU TO....
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The ONLY program you need to take you from ANXIOUS to SECURE in LOVE
My S.E.C.U.R.E Method™ has helped me and hundreds of clients completely rewire anxious attachment, break toxic patterns, and become the secure version of themselves who effortlessly attracts (and keeps) healthy, grounded love.
This method isn’t about quick fixes.
This isn’t surface-level mindset work.
They don’t just “understand” their patterns —
They become secure. And now, love feels safe, easy, and real.
It’s about lasting transformation—at the subconscious, emotional, and behavioural level.
And it's why this program has changed so many lives.
S — Subconscious Healing
We heal the root cause of anxious attachment by meeting the inner child and rewriting the identity that was formed in trauma. No more just “talking about your past.” You reprogram it.
E — Emotional Regulation
You’ll learn how to regulate your nervous system in real time, so triggers no longer hijack your relationships. EFT tapping, somatic tools, and real-world integration are part of this core foundation.
C — Connection to Needs
You’ll uncover what your actual needs are in love (beyond “I want them to text back”), and learn how to express them clearly without fear of rejection.
U — Unlearning Patterns
We dismantle old love loops, break attachment cycles, and stop the pull toward unavailable partners. This is where the anxious-to-secure shift really clicks.
R — Reclaiming Boundaries
No more losing yourself in relationships. You’ll learn how to speak up, set boundaries, and walk away from breadcrumbing — without the guilt or spiral.
E — Embodied Self-Concept
This is where it all locks in. We rewire your subconscious beliefs using deep self-concept work so that secure love becomes your new default. You’ll stop attracting emotionally unavailable partners because you no longer identify with being unchosen.
This isn’t another course that teaches you surface-level affirmations or vague “awareness.”
The S.E.C.U.R.E.™ method gives you the emotional tools, subconscious rewiring, and real-time transformation you need to finally feel safe in love.
WHAT DOES THE S.E.C.U.R.E METHOD COVER?
PHASE ONE: Subconscious Rewiring (Inner Child & Identity)
MODULE 1 – CLARITY
→ Gain clarity on where you are currently, where you really want to be without the fear & what is holding you back.
MODULE 2 – CONNECTION
→ Reconnect with your true self (not your trauma identity). Clarify who you are, your values, and what you actually need from love.
MODULE 3 – COMPASSION
→ Begin healing the root cause of your anxiety through inner child work. Learn to soothe your nervous system and stop judging your emotions.
MODULE 4 – ACCEPTANCE
→ Let go of the old stories you’ve been carrying (“I’m too much,” “They always leave”) and start validating yourself with compassion
PHASE TWO: Emotional Safety & Needs Work (Boundaries, Triggers & Communication)
MODULE 5 – YOUR NEEDS (Part 1)
→ Discover what your core needs are (without guilt), and build the capacity to meet them yourself first.
MODULE 6 – YOUR NEEDS (Part 2)
→ Learn how to identify what you need from others and ask for it clearly—whether you’re dating or already in a relationship.
MODULE 7 – TRIGGERS
→ Rewire your response to triggers using nervous system regulation, EFT tapping, and my proven anxious-attachment healing tools.
MODULE 8 – BOUNDARIES
→ Learn to set boundaries without spiralling into guilt, fear, or anxiety. No more losing yourself to stay “chosen.”
MODULE 9 – COMMUNICATION
→ Learn how to express your feelings, needs, and boundaries without emotional spirals or long-winded texts that never land.
PHASE THREE: Secure Identity & Self-Concept Embodiment
MODULE 10 – CELEBRATING YOU
→ Lock in your growth, reflect on your secure identity, and prepare to step into your next chapter in love from full alignment.
BONUS MODULES – The Self-Concept Shift Series
→ Go deep into the subconscious and reprogram the beliefs that sabotage your love life—like “I’m not chosen,” “People always leave,” or “Love is hard for me.”
• Module 1: Your Self-Concept
• Module 2: Your Self-Concept in Relationships
• Module 3: The Pedestal Reset
• Module 4: Your Secure Identity
• 30-Day Reprogramming Challenge – Daily subconscious rewiring tools that lock in your new beliefs for long-term change.
AFTERCARE & NEXT STEPS
→ You’ll leave with a full toolkit, a secure nervous system, and your next identity fully embodied. This isn’t a course you “complete”—this is work that becomes part of who you are. Forever.
This is the exact method that’s helped hundreds of clients go from anxious to secure.
From breadcrumbing and spirals to emotional stability, healthy love, and secure, committed relationships.
The S.E.C.U.R.E.™ method doesn’t just teach you how to heal—it transforms who you become.
RIGHT NOW, YOU'RE DOING ALL THE "RIGHT" THINGS
Talking in therapy. reading every book, watching the IG content & listening to every podcast
…but love still feels like a battle with your own mind.
The truth?
You don’t need more information.
You need transformation.
A method that rewires your nervous system, rewrites your identity, and makes secure love your new normal.
This is the exact method I’ve used to change mine & hundreds of lives.
And it’s not just me it works for…
Read the many testimonials from people just like you who took the leap to do the work
“I was broken before I started working with Candice. Her method changed my life—and I credit her with my relationship with Jeff.
She was the best investment I ever made in myself. This love wouldn’t exist without her.”
- ARCHANA
THIS IS FOR YOU, IF YOU...
✦ You’ve done the work. You’ve read the books, journaled through the pain, maybe even spent years in therapy— but no matter how much you understand your patterns, nothing has fully shifted the way you show up in love.
✦ Or maybe you're just beginning to uncover the root of your anxiety— and you already know you’re done with surface-level tools that don’t create lasting change. You want transformation that goes deep—to the real wounds underneath it all.
✦ You’re single and tired of over-attaching, ignoring red flags, or chasing people who give you breadcrumbs. You get invested too early, and no matter how hard you try to “play it cool,” it always ends the same:
they pull away—and you spiral.
✦ Or you’re in a relationship—but constantly feel like you’re too much, or not enough. You suppress your needs to keep the peace, walk on eggshells, and can’t stop the overthinking.
✦ You’re done relying on validation from others to feel secure. You’re ready to build a relationship with yourself that’s rooted in self-trust, deep confidence, and grounded emotional safety.
✦ You don’t want to just know your attachment style—you want to reprogram the beliefs that created it.
✦ You’re not here for bandaid solutions anymore. You’re ready to stop managing anxiety in love… and finally become the secure version of you who feels safe receiving real love.
This isn’t just about dating better or communicating differently.
It’s about becoming the version of you who no longer chases love—because they know they are love.
YOUR INVESTMENT IN YOU...
£1555
£1333 GBP
(~$1700 USD) for a LIMITED TIME
(exact conversion may vary slightly)
This isn’t a surface-level course — it’s the full S.E.C.U.R.E. Method™ that’s helped hundreds of people become securely attached, rewire their patterns, and finally feel safe in love.
✔️ Lifetime access to the full Anxious to Secure in Love program
✔️ Subconscious reprogramming tools, nervous system healing, EFT & inner child work
✔️ 250+ page workbook for integration
✔️ Instant access to all modules — go at your own pace
Payment plans available:
3 x £459 | 6 x £236 | 12 x £122
Wondering if now is the time to invest in yourself?
That hesitation — the one that tells you “maybe later” or “do I really need this?” — is often the voice of your old programming. The part of you that’s been taught to put others first. To justify struggle. To earn love instead of simply receiving it.
But you wouldn’t think twice about spending money on a holiday, would you?
And yet when the holiday ends… the anxiety is still there.
The same overthinking. The same self-doubt.
The same patterns that leave you feeling not good enough.
This work changes that — at the root.
Because when you choose to do the inner work, every area of your life rises with you.
Your love life. Your friendships. Your confidence. Your peace.
So maybe the real question isn’t “Can I afford this?”
But “Can I afford not to?”
You are worthy of this shift.
You are worthy of secure, grounded, healthy love.
You are worthy — full stop.
And when you choose you, everything changes.
LET'S BE REAL....
HERE'S WHAT WON'T WORK:
✖️ Saying “I’m fine being single” when deep down, the minute you start to like someone, the anxiety kicks in and you’re back in the same pattern
✖️ Telling yourself “this time will be different” while ignoring the red flags and over-attaching to emotionally unavailable people
✖️ Reading books, listening to podcasts, and going to therapy—but never getting to the subconscious beliefs that keep sabotaging your love life
✖️ Thinking time alone is enough to heal—when healing anxious attachment isn’t about time, it’s about doing the work that rewires your nervous system
✖️ Being in a relationship but walking on eggshells, scared to speak your needs or take up space—then wondering why the connection feels fragile
Anxious attachment is a trauma response. It doesn’t change just because you “understand it.” It changes when you reprogram the root—the beliefs, the wounds, the patterns that run your love life on autopilot.
And that’s exactly what this program is built to do.
Because no one else can change this but you.
And no one else needs to—you are the key.
THE WAY I SEE IT....
YOU HAVE TWO OPTIONS:
Option One: Keep doing it the hard way.
Keep trying to figure it out alone—reading the books, replaying the same patterns, learning through heartbreak, over-functioning in dating or self-silencing in relationships...Hoping that time will fix it. (It won’t.)
OR...
Option Two: Learn the proven method that’s helped hundreds of people just like you move from anxious to secure—quickly, powerfully, and permanently.
Rewire the root cause of your patterns. Learn how to self-soothe, express your needs, and stop chasing love—because you finally feel safe to receive it. A method you’ll have for life—so that secure love becomes your new normal.
I know which one I’d choose.
And if you’re still reading, so do you.
HEAR WHAT MAYA HAD TO SAY A YEAR AFTER COMPLETING THE PROGRAM
I HAVE BEEN WHERE YOU ARE....
Anxiously overthinking every message.
Trying to be chill while secretly spiralling.
Attracting emotionally unavailable partners—again.
Feeling like something must be wrong with you.
I used to think I was too much...
Too sensitive. Too emotional. Too needy.
But the truth is—I wasn’t “too” anything.
I was just stuck in anxious attachment.
And no one ever taught me how to feel safe in love.
I chased love. I settled for crumbs.
I stayed in relationships that triggered the hell out of me because I thought it was better than being alone.
I even married someone, hoping they would save me—
but really, I was abandoning myself.
It wasn’t until I hit rock bottom that I realised:
The common denominator in all my relationships… was me.
And not because I was broken—
but because I was patterned for survival.
When I discovered attachment theory and started healing the real root—everything changed.
Now I’m in a secure, loving relationship that reflects who I’ve become.
And I’ve helped hundreds of others do the same through my S.E.C.U.R.E Method™.
So if you're stuck in anxious loops, breadcrumb situationships, or can’t stop obsessing over “what went wrong”—
I see you. I was you.
And I want you to know this:
It’s not just possible for you to become secure—
It’s inevitable when you do the inner work.
Let this be the moment you stop chasing love—
and start becoming the version of you who finally feels chosen.
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS...
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What is the difference between coaching & therapy?Therapy is great for talking about your feelings, trauma events & processing your emotions but it doesn't give you the path or action steps to move past the trauma, to get you to where you want to be. Coaching is this gap, it is results driven & requires action. It is designed to get you from where you are to where you want to be. My coaching also addresses/heals the trauma & then moves you forward. A lot of my clients have been in therapy for years & haven't seen results, after just a few months working with me, they make changes in their lives/minds that they NEVER thought they would.
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What's included with private coaching?> 3 x 1:1 60min sessions via video call with Candice per month > Unlimited private voxer voicenote/text support with Candice > Fieldwork & worksheets inbetween sessions > Tools & techniques for self-coaching
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How will sessions take place?They are all online over video call on zoom
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What if I'm in another country?No problem, I work with clients all around the world in different time zones so that isn't a problem, we will be able to find a time that suits.
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Do you offer one session at a time?I don't, my coaching is based on getting you results and guides you through a tried & tested model which I can only guarantee results once followed for a certain amount of time.
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I can't afford 1:1 coaching at the moment, is there an alternative?Yes, I created The Secure Mastermind which is a beautiful hybrid of 1:1 & group coaching at an affordable price. For more details click the button below:
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What is voxer support?Voxer is a free app that allows you to voice note or text me directly outside of our sessions for any guidance that you may need or want to work through. This is your private access to me throughout our container for your maximum support & growth.
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Not seen the answer to your question here.....No problem, book a free 15min call on the link above & I will answer any questions you have, alternatively contact me on hello@candicetamaracoaching.com
