CANDICE TAMARA
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I KNOW YOU...
You’re ready to be in a relationship with someone who is emotionally available, consistent, and secure.
Where you don’t have to guess if they like you-because they show you. Daily. With ease.
And more importantly - you trust it.
Because you trust yourself.
You're no longer watching your phone like your worth depends on it.
You're living your life - thriving in your career, showing up fully for yourself
and love is just… flowing. Peaceful. Grounded. Real.
You can feel when something is off, but you don’t spiral.
You breathe. You check in. You know how to respond instead of react.
No more overexplaining, no more re-reading texts, no more chasing.
You know what your needs are - and you actually communicate them clearly, calmly, without fear of pushing someone away.
You don’t walk on eggshells.
You walk in your power.
You’re not trying to be “chosen.”
You KNOW you are.
From this place, love meets you differently.
Imagine meeting someone secure and actually enjoying it...Without analysing every message or wondering where you stand.
The connection builds naturally because you’re not trying to manage it or prove yourself.
Imagine your current Connection shifting...More effort. More consistency. More emotional presence and commitment
Not because you asked for it, but because the dynamic itself changes when you stop relating from fear and start relating from certainty.
OR imagine a past connection re-entering your life...Not to repeat the same painful pattern, but to form something entirely different.
A reconnection that feels grounded, mutual, and secure - because the version of you they’re meeting now is not the one they left.
You’re no longer afraid of losing love.
You don’t need reassurance to feel safe.
You no longer need someone to fill your cup because it’s already full.
You’re attracting love from wholeness, not fear.
And every time your partner leans in closer, your nervous system says:
“I’m safe. I can receive this. I deserve this.”
This is secure love.
This is what you were always meant for.
BUT, RIGHT NOW...
You’re the one who looks like they’ve got it all together...
The high-achiever.
The strong one.
The one everyone leans on.
You're emotionally intelligent, self-aware, doing the work.
You’ve read the books. journaled. Maybe you’ve even done years of therapy.
But still… you find yourself asking:
“Why does love feel harder for me than it should?”
In dating, you constantly second-guess yourself.
You replay conversations, analyse messages, and wonder what you did wrong.
You attract emotionally unavailable or inconsistent people
Connections that feel intense and promising at first, then pull away just as things start to feel good.
You over-give.
You over-think.
You look for reassurance - even though you know it never really settles you.
You're Ignoring red flags because you're just relieved someone is kind of choosing you
You're constantly scanning for signs they’re losing interest
You're sending long emotional texts you promised yourself wouldn't send, hoping this time it will land differently.
In relationships, the pattern doesn’t disappear.
It just changes shape.
You find yourself carrying the emotional weight of the connection.
Fixing. Managing. Over-functioning.
You never feel like their priority.
You want consistency, commitment, or deeper emotional presence - but you never quite feel secure in it.
When there’s distance, your nervous system activates.
You feel unsettled.
You chase closeness instead of feeling grounded within yourself.
You tell yourself not to be “too much” - but still feel like you always are.
You’ve tried to fix it.
You’ve gained the awareness.
You understand the patterns.
But they keep repeating - like your nervous system didn’t get the memo.
And the hardest part?
You can feel that your anxiety and self-concept are actively shaping the dynamic.
You sense that the more afraid you are of losing love,
The more you chase certainty, reassurance, or closeness
The more that energy quietly pushes connection away.
You know you shouldn’t accept breadcrumbs.
You know you shouldn’t abandon yourself to keep connection.
But when anxiety takes over, logic disappears
and the old survival patterns step back in.
You start trying to regulate the relationship
instead of feeling regulated within it.
And deep down, you’re exhausted.
Tired of managing love.
Tired of proving your worth.
Tired of working so hard just to feel chosen.
WHAT CLIENTS HAVE TO SAY...
IT'S TIME TO STOP..SO THAT YOU CAN HAVE The SECURE RELATIONSHIPS THAT YOU DESERVE
WHAT YOU ACTUALLY NEED TO
BECOME SECURE IN LOVE...
Becoming secure in love isn’t about trying harder or learning to “manage” anxiety.
It’s about changing what’s been driving your reactions all along.
There are three core shifts that have to happen:
1. Heal the Root
Your reactions aren’t coming from the present moment.
They’re coming from survival identities formed when love didn’t feel safe, consistent, or secure.
The part of you that learned to chase, overthink, people-please, or abandon yourself wasn’t broken - it was adapting.
Until that root identity is met and rewritten, your adult self keeps replaying the same dynamics, even when you know better.
This work isn’t about endlessly analysing the past.
It’s about changing how those early patterns live in your nervous system now.
2. Reprogram Your Nervous System
The anxiety you feel isn’t a mindset issue - it’s a conditioned survival response.
Yes, you learn tools that help regulate your system when it’s activated.
But the deeper work retrains your nervous system so it no longer needs to fire in the same way.
Over time:
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the panic softens
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the hyper-vigilance fades
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the triggers lose their charge
You don’t stay calm by effort.
You become calm by default.
3. Rewire Your Self-Concept
Your identity shapes your relationships.
If, at a subconscious level, you see yourself as unchosen, too much, or hard to love, your relationships will continue to mirror that - no matter how much awareness you have.
This work rewires those survival identities at the subconscious level, so secure love stops being something you work toward and starts being what feels natural.
AND WHEN YOU DO THIS, EVERYTHING SHIFTS:
You wake up without checking your phone in a panic.
You’re no longer waiting for a text to feel okay because your sense of safety no longer depends on someone else’s response.
You notice a trigger before it turns into a spiral.
Not because you’re policing yourself - but because fear no longer runs the system.
You speak your needs clearly and calmly.
Without rehearsing. Without apologising. You trust that the right connection can meet you there.
You stop chasing love and start receiving it.
There’s nothing to prove, perform, or hold together.
You’re grounded in who you are - and relationships respond to that.
You walk away from what doesn’t serve you without drama or self-betrayal.
No begging. No explaining. No hoping someone will change. You choose yourself - naturally.
And when someone moves closer, your body doesn’t tense or brace.
There’s no waiting for the other shoe to drop.
You can actually let love in and stay present inside it.
THIS IS MINE & MY CLIENTS REALITY.
Because becoming securely attached isn’t a personality trait. It’s a skill. A method. A process. And once you learn it, you’ll never chase love again.
THE RESULTS SPEAK FOR THEMSELVES...
SO LET ME INTRODUCE YOU TO....
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The ONLY program you need to take you from ANXIOUS to SECURE in LOVE
Anxious to Secure in Love follows a clear, step-by-step S.E.C.U.R.E Method™
Every phase builds on the last - so nothing feels overwhelming, rushed, or skipped.
You’re not meant to pick and choose.
You move through it in order, and the transformation compounds.
This is a practical programme designed to rewire patterns through application, repetition, and integration - not just information.
That’s why it creates real change.
You’re not being taught what secure attachment is.
You’re guided through becoming it.
My S.E.C.U.R.E Method™ has helped hundreds of clients completely rewire anxious attachment, break toxic patterns, and become the secure version of themselves who effortlessly attracts (and keeps) healthy, grounded love.
This method isn’t about quick fixes.
This isn’t surface-level mindset work.
They don’t just “understand” their patterns
They become secure. And now, love feels safe, easy, and real.
It’s about lasting transformation - at the subconscious, emotional, and behavioural level.
S: Subconscious Healing
We rewrite the identities formed in trauma so old attachment patterns no longer run the show.
E: Emotional Regulation
our nervous system learns safety, not just control - through nervous-system-based and somatic approaches that retrain responses at the root.
C: Connection to Needs
You uncover what your actual needs are in love and learn how to express them clearly, without fear of rejection or abandonment.
U: Unlearning Patterns
We dismantle old love loops, break attachment cycles, and stop the pull toward unavailable partners.
R: Reclaiming Boundaries
Boundaries become natural, not forced - because self-trust is restored.
E: Embodied Self-Concept
Secure love becomes your default identity, not something you try to maintain.
This isn’t another course that teaches you surface-level affirmations or vague “awareness.”
The S.E.C.U.R.E.™ method gives you the emotional tools, subconscious rewiring, and real-time transformation you need to finally feel safe in love.
WHAT DOES THE S.E.C.U.R.E METHOD COVER?
PHASE ONE: Subconscious Rewiring
This phase is about changing what’s been running your relationships beneath the surface.
MODULE 1 – CLARITY
→ You get clear on where you are, what you actually want in love, and how fear has been shaping your choices without you realising it.
MODULE 2 – CONNECTION
→ Reconnect with your true self (not your trauma identity). Clarify who you are, your values, and what you actually need from love.
MODULE 3 – COMPASSION
→ You begin healing the root of anxious attachment through inner child work and nervous-system safety
Anxiety stops feeling like something to fight or fix and starts dissolving as your system learns safety.
MODULE 4 – ACCEPTANCE
→ Let go of the old stories you’ve been carrying (“I’m too much,” “They always leave”) and start validating yourself with compassion
PHASE TWO: Emotional Safety & Needs Work
This phase turns internal safety into relational safety.
Needs, boundaries, and communication become clear and grounded.
MODULE 5 – YOUR NEEDS (Part 1)
→ You uncover your core needs without guilt or self-judgement.
You build the internal capacity to meet yourself emotionally so you’re no longer sourcing safety solely from others.
MODULE 6 – YOUR NEEDS (Part 2)
→ You learn how to identify what you need from others and communicate it clearly - whether you’re dating or already in a relationship.
MODULE 7 – TRIGGERS
→ Your nervous system is retrained so triggers no longer hijack your behaviour.
Through nervous-system-based work and EFT-style approaches, emotional reactions soften at the root — instead of being managed in the moment.
MODULE 8 – BOUNDARIES
→ Learn to set boundaries without spiralling into guilt, fear, or anxiety.
You stop losing yourself to stay connected - because self-trust is now stronger than the fear of being left.
MODULE 9 – COMMUNICATION
→ Learn how to express your feelings, needs, and boundaries without emotional spirals or long-winded texts that never land. Communication becomes clean, grounded, and effective.
MODULE 10 – CELEBRATING YOU
→ Lock in your growth, reflect on your secure identity, and prepare to step into your next chapter in love from full alignment.
PHASE THREE: CREATE YOUR SECURE RELATIONSHIP
Once your nervous system is stable and your attachment patterns are no longer running the show, the work deepens.
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The 8 week method that transforms your relationships - past, present, and future - by transforming you.
Create Your Secure Relationship is where everything intergrates - and your relationships begin to reflect who you've become.
Whether you want to:
✔ attract a new secure relationship with an emotionally available partner
✔ reconnect with someone you love without repeating the past, or
✔ finally shift the dynamic in your current relationship to more mutual, committed or secure without chasing
This is the programme that makes it happen - because it changes the one thing everything else in your love life depends on:
Your internal identity.
This is deep subconscious and nervous-system rewiring that elevates who you are in love - so your relationships finally reflect it.
Inside Create Your Secure Relationship™, you’ll:
✨ rebuild yourself into the secure, grounded, chosen identity
✨ dissolve the survival patterns that push love away
✨ step into the version of you who attracts consistency, clarity, and commitment
✨ and create the relationship outcomes you’ve been trying to achieve for years
You then choose your pathway depending on where you are currently & what you're relationship outcome is.
RIGHT NOW, YOU'RE DOING ALL THE "RIGHT" THINGS
Talking in therapy. reading every book, Consuming the content. & listening to every podcast
…but love still feels like a battle with your own mind.
That’s not because you haven’t tried hard enough.
It’s because insight alone doesn’t change the patterns running your nervous system or identity.
The truth?
You don’t need more information.
You need transformation.
A process that changes how your body responds,
how you see yourself in love,
and how relationships meet you as a result.
That’s what this work does.
This is the exact method I’ve used to change mine & hundreds of lives.
Read the many testimonials from people just like you who took the leap to do the work
“I was broken before I started working with Candice. Her method changed my life—and I credit her with my relationship with Jeff.
She was the best investment I ever made in myself. This love wouldn’t exist without her.”
- ARCHANA
THIS IS FOR YOU, IF YOU...
✦ You’ve done the work. You’ve read the books, journaled through the pain, maybe even spent years in therapy - but no matter how much you understand your patterns, nothing has fully shifted the way you show up in love.
✦ Or maybe you're just beginning to notice your anxious patterns and you already know you’re done with surface-level tools that don’t create lasting change. You want transformation that goes deep to the real wounds underneath it all.
✦ You want to be guided through a clear, structured process that gets proven results instead of trying to figure it out yourself alone.
✦ You’re ready for your relationships to change because you change - not through effort, force, or strategy, but through internal stability.
✦ You’re done relying on validation from others to feel secure. You’re ready to build a relationship with yourself that’s rooted in self-trust, deep confidence, and grounded emotional safety.
✦ You don’t want to just know your attachment style - you want to reprogram the beliefs that created it.
✦ You’re not here for bandaid solutions anymore. You’re ready to stop managing anxiety in love… and finally become the secure version of you who feels safe receiving real love.
This isn’t just about dating better or communicating differently.
It’s about changing the internal identity your relationships respond to so love no longer feels like something you have to chase, manage, or earn.
YOUR INVESTMENT IN YOU...
£1555
£1333 GBP
(~$1700 USD) for a LIMITED TIME
(exact conversion may vary slightly)
This is the complete Anxious to Secure in Love programme - including Create Your Secure Relationship™ designed to build secure attachment from the inside out and stabilise it in real relationships.
Your investment includes:
✔ Lifetime access to the full Anxious to Secure in Love programme
✔ Access to Create Your Secure Relationship™ - a full identity integration programme (valued at £888 when offered separately), included as part of Anxious to Secure in Love
✔ The complete S.E.C.U.R.E. Method™ framework
✔ Subconscious and nervous-system-based tools (including EFT, inner child work, and subliminal support)
✔ A comprehensive workbook for integration and embodiment
✔ Live integration support (including one group call with Candice during this intake)
✔ Instant access to all modules - move at your own pace and revisit whenever needed
Payment plans available:
3 x £459 | 6 x £236 | 12 x £122
Wondering if now is the time to invest in yourself?
That hesitation - the one that tells you “maybe later” or “do I really need this?” is often the voice of your old programming.
The part of you that’s been taught to put others first.
To justify struggle. To earn love instead of simply receiving it.
It’s often easier to invest in short-term relief - a break, a reset, a distraction - than long-term change.
You probably wouldn’t overthink spending money on a holiday, would you?
And yet when the holiday ends… the anxiety is still there.
The same overthinking. The same self-doubt.
The same relationship patterns that leave you heartbroken & hopeless
This work changes that - at the root.
Because when you commit to doing the inner work, every area of your life rises with you.
Your love life. Your friendships. Your confidence. Your career. Your peace. And even your relationship with money. Because it all starts & ends with you.
So maybe the real question isn’t “Can I afford this?”
But “Can I afford not to?”
You don’t need to justify choosing yourself.
And you don’t need to wait until things get worse.
You are worthy of this shift.
You are worthy of secure, grounded, healthy love.
You are worthy - full stop.
And when you choose you, everything changes.
LET'S BE REAL....
HERE'S WHAT WON'T WORK:
✖️ Saying “I’m fine being single” when deep down, the minute you start to like someone, the anxiety kicks in and you’re back in the same pattern
✖️ Telling yourself “I just need to choose the right person” that will make you secure - when the people you’re drawn to are still being filtered through an anxious internal state.
✖️ Telling yourself “this time will be different” while ignoring the red flags and over-attaching to emotionally unavailable people
✖️ Reading books, listening to podcasts, and going to therapy - but never getting to the subconscious beliefs that keep sabotaging your love life
✖️ Thinking time alone is enough to heal - when healing anxious attachment isn’t about time, it’s about doing the work that rewires your nervous system
✖️ Being in a relationship but walking on eggshells, scared to speak your needs or take up space - then wondering why the connection feels fragile
Anxious attachment is a trauma response. It doesn’t change just because you “understand it.” It changes when you reprogram the root—the beliefs, the wounds, the patterns that run your love life on autopilot.
And that’s exactly what this program is built to do.
Because no one else can change this but you.
And no one else needs to - it all starts and ends with you.
THE WAY I SEE IT....
You have two options:
Option One: Keep doing it the hard way.
Keep trying to figure it out alone - watching content, replaying the same patterns, learning through heartbreak, over-functioning in dating or self-silencing in relationships...Hoping that time will fix it. (It won’t.)
OR
Option Two: Follow a proven process that works.
Learn the proven method that’s helped countless people just like you move from anxious to secure and actually experience stable, secure love.
The results speak for themselves.
I know which one I’d choose.
And if you’re still reading, so do you.
HEAR WHAT MAYA HAD TO SAY A YEAR AFTER COMPLETING THE PROGRAM
I know this method works..
I HAVE BEEN WHERE YOU ARE....
I didn’t come to this work because dating felt a bit hard.
I came to it because love felt unsafe in my body.
I grew up with severe childhood trauma and emotional instability - the kind that wires your nervous system early to expect abandonment, inconsistency, and disappointment.
By the time I was an adult, that wiring showed up as anxious attachment, overgiving, hypervigilance, and a deep fear of not being chosen.
I could be confident, successful, self-aware - and still fall apart in relationships.
I wanted love so deeply that I was...
The one analysing every message, terrified of “getting it wrong.”
The one shrinking my needs.
The one holding everything together.
The one trying to stay “secure” while my body was bracing for loss.
I could see my patterns - but I couldn’t stop repeating them.
I did the therapy.
The journaling.
The attachment work.
I understood myself.
But my relationships didn’t change.
I kept attracting intensity, inconsistency, and almost-relationships… no matter how much “inner work” I did.
And that’s when I realised something that changed everything:
It wasn’t my behaviour creating my relationship outcomes.
It was my subconscious beliefs and assumptions about love, safety, and being chosen.
My nervous system wasn’t reacting to the present, it was responding to what it expected.
I was unconsciously assuming:
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love disappears
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connection has to be earned
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being chosen isn’t safe to trust
And my reality was faithfully reflecting that.
When I stopped trying to manage my reactions
and instead changed the assumptions my identity was built on, everything shifted.
I learned how to:
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rewire my self-concept at the subconscious level
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regulate my nervous system based on new expectations
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embody the identity of the woman who expects commitment, safety, and consistency
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hold that identity even when old triggers surfaced
I stopped needing to be chosen.
I wasn’t “hoping” for love anymore.
I was assuming it.
And reality responded.
I didn’t just heal anxious attachment
I changed the dynamics of all of my relationships.
Patterns that had followed me for years dissolved.
Connections reorganised.
People showed up differently.
When I anchored into the identity of the woman who already expects commitment, safety, and reciprocity - my reality reorganised quickly.
When I met my partner, the relationship unfolded in a way I had never experienced - grounded, consistent, intentional.
Finally, someone that was choosing me so effortlessly, and this time... my anxiety didn't sabotage it...
Not because I was “better at coping,” but because I had become the version of me who no longer expects love to disappear.
Today, I’m in the most emotionally available, steady, deeply connected relationship of my life and engaged to the person I once only imagined.
And this isn’t just about romance.
This work changed my entire life - all of my relationships became harmonious, my confidence, my calm, my friendships, my boundaries, my business, my ability to hold more in every area of life.
It’s the exact method I’ve used to help hundreds of clients:
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shift long-standing relationship patterns
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stabilise existing relationships
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reconnect past connections in healthier dynamics
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and attract secure, emotionally available partners
This programme exists because this work works.
And now it’s here to help you stop repeating the patterns you’re exhausted by and finally create the secure relationship you’ve always been capable of.
