CANDICE TAMARA
Your Chasing Archetype:
THE GHOSTED ONE
You don’t chase love by asking for more.
You chase by bracing for disappearance.
Most people recognise themselves in more than one archetype. This result reflects the pattern you default to most - especially when you feel uncertain, activated, or emotionally invested.
If this is you, you’ll recognise this immediately...
Everything can be going great... until something shifts.
A reply takes longer.
Their energy feels off.
They’re quieter than normal.
They say they’re busy or need some space.
And immediately you think:
**Something’s changed.**
Now you’re replaying the last conversation, checking your phone, wondering if you did something wrong and trying to work out if this is the beginning of the end.
You might send a casual *“Everything okay?”* - but what you really want to know is:
**Are we okay? Do you still want me?**
And you probably tell yourself you’re just really good at picking up on energy.
Maybe you are.
**But the problem isn’t noticing a change. It’s immediately deciding what that change means.**
How this shows up in your relationships...
You may keep ending up with people who:
* Come in strong and then fade
* Blow hot and cold
* Are all in one minute and distant the next
* Suddenly “need space” when things were going so well
* Leave you wondering WTF happened
And every time it happens, it gives you even more reason to believe:
**“See. This always happens to me. People always leave.”**
THAT is the **Not-Chosen belief.**
And even when everything is going well, there’s a part of you waiting for the moment it isn’t.
Why this is still chasing...
You might NEVER double text, beg or physically chase someone.
But in your head?
You’re chasing all day long.
Checking.
Analysing.
Reading into everything.
Looking for some sign that you’re still okay.
Preparing yourself for them to leave before they’ve even left.
Sometimes you’ll even pull back because you think THEY’RE pulling back.
**You’re reacting to an ending that hasn’t even happened yet.**
So instead of actually enjoying the relationship, you’re watching it to make sure you haven’t lost it.
Why you do it...
At some point, you learned that people you love can change, pull away or disappear.
Maybe someone important was emotionally unavailable.
Maybe love was inconsistent.
Maybe you’ve been blindsided or abandoned in relationships before.
So you learned:
**“If I see it coming, maybe it won’t hurt as much.”**
That might have protected you once.
But now it keeps the **Not-Chosen belief** going - and keeps you expecting history to repeat itself.
what happens when you change the not chosen belief?
You stop expecting every small change to be the beginning of the end.
A slower reply doesn’t automatically mean they’re losing interest. A quiet day doesn’t mean something’s wrong.
You’re not constantly waiting for the moment everything changes.
And THIS is where your relationships change.
You stop repeating the same hot-and-cold, everything was amazing and then WTF happened? relationships.
You start experiencing people who are consistent. Who don’t suddenly disappear when things get close. Who make it clear they want you and keep showing you that they do.
You’re not constantly wondering where you stand because the relationship actually feels secure.
Instead of always expecting to be left...
You finally experience someone who chooses you - and keeps choosing you.
Your next step To stop chasing & be chosen....
to stop waiting to be chosen & shift into chosen energy
so love starts choosing you back - consistently.
A focused, transformational masterclass designed to shift your identity from chasing → to chosen.
This isn’t hours of information you don't know how to use.
It’s a precise experience that creates the internal shift your love life responds to.
Inside Chasing to Chosen, you’ll receive:
The Chasing to Chosen Masterclass:
A clear, grounded training that explains:
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how the not-chosen wound is currently showing up in your dating or relationships
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the subtle ways you’ve been trying to be chosen without realising it
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how being chosen actually feels and looks different - internally and in real life
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and what needs to shift so you stop repeating the same patterns
Guided EFT Tapping Session (Secure Method™)
A deep guided EFT session using my Secure Method™ to release old beliefs and chase-energy from your nervous system. You won’t just understand the shift - you will feel it land in your body.
This is where your reactions, patterns, and anxieties start to change instantly.
Chosen Rampage Audio
A short daily audio designed to start your day in the chosen energy - helping you reinforce the new assumptions and embody the new internal state that this work creates.
Simple Daily Integration Practice
You’ll also leave with a simple 21- to 30-day integration plan: repeat the EFT tapping + chosen rampage daily to reprogram your mind and body at a deep, subconscious level.
Lifetime Access
Come back to the masterclass, EFT, and rampage whenever you need to reconnect with the Chosen version of you.
You already know what happens when nothing changes.
This is where you choose differently.
Because you have already taken your first step today... you're invited to join the From Chasing to Chosen Masterclass at a special rate for the next 24hours only.
