CANDICE TAMARA
Your Chasing Archetype:
The Hyper-Independent one
You don’t chase love by asking for more.
You chase by needing as little as possible.
Most people recognise themselves in more than one archetype. This result reflects the pattern you default to most - especially when you feel uncertain, activated, or emotionally invested.
If this is you, you’ll recognise this immediately...
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You pride yourself on being self-sufficient and emotionally contained
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You rarely ask for support, freely give yours, and feel quietly resentful when it isn’t met in return.
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You feel uncomfortable needing reassurance, support, or closeness
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You downplay how much someone matters to you - even to yourself
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Vulnerability feels risky, exposing, or like a loss of control
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You pull back the moment you feel yourself wanting someone more
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You tell yourself you’re “fine” instead of letting yourself need
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You self-soothe alone rather than reaching out
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You keep your emotions measured and under control
You feel safest when you’re not dependent on anyone.
It doesn’t feel like chasing.
It feels like strength.
Boundaries.
Emotional maturity.
How this shapes Your relationships...
This pattern doesn’t just affect what you do, it shapes who shows up in your love life.
As a Hyper-Independent, you often find yourself dating people who:
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admire your independence and composure
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don’t push for emotional closeness
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keep things light, casual, or undefined
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never quite ask you to let them in fully
Not because you you want distance but because your energy says, “I don’t need anything from you.”
At the core, the Hyper-Independent is operating from a quiet belief:
“If I don’t need anyone, I can’t be hurt.”
So when connection feels uncertain:
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you detach before they detach from you
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you downplay your feelings
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you convince yourself you’re better off handling things alone
Why this is still chasing...
You don’t wait to see whether someone can meet you emotionally.
You:
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self-contain instead of reaching
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withdraw before you’re disappointed
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stay “in control” rather than staying open
Because if you don’t need anything, they can’t reject you for having needs - or leave.
What feels like strength slowly becomes emotional distance.
And without meaning to, you teach people:
“I don’t need you - and I won’t ask.”
The cost of this pattern...
Over time, this can leave you:
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feeling composed but quietly lonely
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craving intimacy while pushing it away
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attracting connections that never deepen
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feeling unseen even when someone stays
You stay in control but never allow yourself to have the deep intimacy you crave.
What’s actually underneath this pattern...
This isn’t a personality flaw or a dating mistake.
A part of you learned early that love feels safest when:
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you rely on yourself
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you don’t need reassurance
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you stay emotionally contained
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you don’t let anyone have leverage
Not because you weren’t lovable but because needing someone once came with disappointment, withdrawal, or loss.
This is what I call the Not-Chosen wound.
It’s the part of you that learned:
“If I don’t need anyone, I won’t be left.”
Until this shifts, the Hyper-Independent, pattern keeps repeating even when you genuinely want closeness.
What actually starts to shift the Hyper-Independent pattern...
This doesn’t change by forcing vulnerability or pushing yourself to “open up more.
Because this pattern doesn’t live in your behaviour.
It lives in your nervous system and subconscious identity.
the part of you that learned safety comes from self-containment.
Until that shifts, you’ll keep choosing control over connection under pressure even when what you want is closeness.
And your relationships will keep staying comfortable, but never quite intimate.
That’s why awareness alone isn’t enough.
Your next step To stop chasing & be chosen....
to stop waiting to be chosen & shift into chosen energy
so love starts choosing you back - consistently.
A focused, transformational masterclass designed to shift your identity from chasing → to chosen.
This isn’t hours of information you don't know how to use.
It’s a precise experience that creates the internal shift your love life responds to.
Inside Chasing to Chosen, you’ll receive:
The Chasing to Chosen Masterclass:
A clear, grounded training that explains:
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how the not-chosen wound is currently showing up in your dating or relationships
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the subtle ways you’ve been trying to be chosen without realising it
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how being chosen actually feels and looks different - internally and in real life
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and what needs to shift so you stop repeating the same patterns
Guided EFT Tapping Session (Secure Method™)
A deep guided EFT session using my Secure Method™ to release old beliefs and chase-energy from your nervous system. You won’t just understand the shift - you will feel it land in your body.
This is where your reactions, patterns, and anxieties start to change instantly.
Chosen Rampage Audio
A short daily audio designed to start your day in the chosen energy - helping you reinforce the new assumptions and embody the new internal state that this work creates.
Simple Daily Integration Practice
You’ll also leave with a simple 21- to 30-day integration plan: repeat the EFT tapping + chosen rampage daily to reprogram your mind and body at a deep, subconscious level.
Lifetime Access
Come back to the masterclass, EFT, and rampage whenever you need to reconnect with the Chosen version of you.
You already know what happens when nothing changes.
This is where you choose differently.
Because you have already taken your first step today... you're invited to join the From Chasing to Chosen Masterclass at a special rate for the next 24hours only.
