Archtype: performer | Candice Tamara

Your Chasing Archetype:
THE PERFORMER

You don’t chase love by asking for more.

You chase by trying to be perfect enough to be chosen.

Most people recognise themselves in more than one archetype. This result reflects the pattern you default to most - especially when you feel uncertain, activated, or emotionally invested.

If this is you, you’ll recognise this immediately...

You put pressure on yourself to be the perfect version of you.

Attractive. Interesting. Confident. Successful. Fun. Easy to be with. Someone who has their shit together.

You’re very aware of how you’re coming across.
You think about what you say before you say it.
You hide the parts of yourself that feel insecure, messy or “too much.”
You act unbothered when you ARE bothered.
You might avoid asking for what you really want because you don’t want to seem needy, difficult or demanding.

You’re not being fake. But you ARE carefully controlling which parts of you they get to see.

Because underneath it is:

“If I’m perfect enough, what reason would they have NOT to choose me?”

How this shows up in your relationships...

You may find yourself with people who:
Love how confident, attractive or put-together you seem
Tell you how amazing you are but still don’t give you the relationship you want, still not fully choosing you.
Admire you without ever really knowing you
Enjoy the easy, polished version of you but struggle when you actually have needs

And this is where it gets painful.

Because you can KNOW you’re a catch and still wonder:

“What else do I need to be for someone to actually choose me?”

THAT is the Not-Chosen belief.

“If I’m good enough, perfect enough, attractive enough, easy enough... then I’ll be chosen.”

Why this is still chasing to be chosen...

You might never physically chase someone.

But you’re trying to EARN being chosen.

Trying to say the right thing.

Look the right way.

Be fun enough. Successful enough. Sexy enough.

Not be too emotional. Too needy. Too difficult.

Basically: give them absolutely no reason NOT to choose you.

Why you do it...

Maybe you learned early that being the good one, clever one, mature one or easy one got you love, praise or attention.

Maybe making mistakes didn’t feel safe.

Maybe being impressive got you noticed while having needs didn’t.

So you learned:

“If I get everything right, I’ll be loved.”

what changes when you change the not chosen belief?

You stop feeling like you have to get everything right to keep someone interested.

You don’t have to look perfect, say the right thing, be endlessly fun or pretend you’re fine when you’re not.

And THIS is where your relationships change.

You stop ending up in connections where you feel like you have to keep being amazing just to keep them.

You can have a bad day. Be emotional. Say what you actually want. Let someone see you without your shit together.

And they don’t suddenly lose interest. They don’t pull away. They don’t stop choosing you.

You finally get to have the thing you were trying to perform your way into all along:

Someone who loves you AND stays - without you having to be perfect first.

Your next step To stop chasing & be chosen....

to stop waiting to be chosen & shift into chosen energy

so love starts choosing you back - consistently.

A focused, transformational masterclass designed to shift your identity from chasing → to chosen.

This isn’t hours of information you don't know how to use.

It’s a precise experience that creates the internal shift your love life responds to.

Inside Chasing to Chosen, you’ll receive:

The Chasing to Chosen Masterclass:

A clear, grounded training that explains:

how the not-chosen wound is currently showing up in your dating or relationships
the subtle ways you’ve been trying to be chosen without realising it
how being chosen actually feels and looks different - internally and in real life
and what needs to shift so you stop repeating the same patterns

Guided EFT Tapping Session (Secure Method™)

A deep guided EFT session using my Secure Method™ to release old beliefs and chase-energy from your nervous system. You won’t just understand the shift - you will feel it land in your body.

This is where your reactions, patterns, and anxieties start to change instantly.

Chosen Rampage Audio

A short daily audio designed to start your day in the chosen energy - helping you reinforce the new assumptions and embody the new internal state that this work creates.

Simple Daily Integration Practice

You’ll also leave with a simple 21- to 30-day integration plan: repeat the EFT tapping + chosen rampage daily to reprogram your mind and body at a deep, subconscious level.

Lifetime Access

Come back to the masterclass, EFT, and rampage whenever you need to reconnect with the Chosen version of you.

You already know what happens when nothing changes.

This is where you choose differently.

Because you have already taken your first step today... you're invited to join the From Chasing to Chosen Masterclass at a special rate for the next 24hours only.