Archtype: prover | Candice Tamara

Your Chasing Archetype:
THE PROVER

You don’t chase love by asking for more.

You chase by working harder to be chosen.

Most people recognise themselves in more than one archetype. This result reflects the pattern you default to most - especially when you feel uncertain, activated, or emotionally invested.

If this is you, you’ll recognise this immediately...

The minute you feel someone pulling back, you want to DO something about it.

They’re texting less? You check in.

Things feel off? You try to talk about it.

They stop making plans? You suggest one.

They’re unsure about the relationship? You explain why this could work.

They say they need space or aren’t ready? Part of you immediately starts thinking about what you could say or do that might change their mind.

The less certain the relationship feels, the more effort you make.

And it doesn’t feel like chasing.

It feels like caring.

Fighting for what you want.

Not throwing away something good just because things got hard.

But underneath all that effort is:

“If I do enough, eventually they’ll realise I’m worth choosing.”

How this shows up in your relationships...

You may keep finding yourself with people who:

Are unsure about what they want
Let you initiate most of the contact, plans or conversations
Happily receive everything you give without matching it
Give you just enough to keep you trying
Leave YOU doing most of the work to keep the relationship going

And you keep thinking:

Maybe if I give it a little more time.
Maybe if I explain it differently.
Maybe if I stop putting pressure on them.
Maybe if I show them I’m not going anywhere.

Maybe THEN they’ll finally give you what you’ve been giving them.

THAT is the Not-Chosen belief.

“If I try hard enough, eventually I’ll be chosen.”

Why this is still chasing to be chosen...

You might not think of yourself as someone who chases.

You’re just loyal. You don’t give up on people easily.

But look at what happens when THEY give less.

You give more.
You compensate for their lack of effort.
You keep conversations going.
You give another chance.
You try to fix whatever feels wrong.

You focus on what YOU could do differently instead of noticing how hard you’re working just to keep this thing alive.

You’re not being chosen. You’re trying to convince someone to choose you.

And there’s a massive difference.

Why you do it...

Maybe you learned early that love required effort.

That being helpful, good, understanding or giving got you love.

Maybe you had to work for someone’s attention.

Maybe giving up on someone felt like losing them altogether.

So you learned:

“If I try hard enough, I can make love stay.”

And now when love feels uncertain, your instinct is still to try harder.

What happens when you change the Not-Chosen belief?

You stop feeling like it’s your job to convince someone to want the relationship.

You stop being the one initiating everything, fixing everything and keeping everything going.

And THIS is where your relationships change.

You start experiencing people who make the plans.

Send the text.

Have the conversation.

Put the effort in.

You’re not constantly trying to get more from them because they’re already giving it.

You finally get to experience a relationship that doesn’t only work because YOU keep making it work.

You’re not proving why you should be chosen anymore.

They’re showing you that you already are.

Your next step To stop chasing & be chosen....

to stop waiting to be chosen & shift into chosen energy

so love starts choosing you back - consistently.

A focused, transformational masterclass designed to shift your identity from chasing → to chosen.

This isn’t hours of information you don't know how to use.

It’s a precise experience that creates the internal shift your love life responds to.

Inside Chasing to Chosen, you’ll receive:

The Chasing to Chosen Masterclass:

A clear, grounded training that explains:

how the not-chosen wound is currently showing up in your dating or relationships
the subtle ways you’ve been trying to be chosen without realising it
how being chosen actually feels and looks different - internally and in real life
and what needs to shift so you stop repeating the same patterns

Guided EFT Tapping Session (Secure Method™)

A deep guided EFT session using my Secure Method™ to release old beliefs and chase-energy from your nervous system. You won’t just understand the shift - you will feel it land in your body.

This is where your reactions, patterns, and anxieties start to change instantly.

Chosen Rampage Audio

A short daily audio designed to start your day in the chosen energy - helping you reinforce the new assumptions and embody the new internal state that this work creates.

Simple Daily Integration Practice

You’ll also leave with a simple 21- to 30-day integration plan: repeat the EFT tapping + chosen rampage daily to reprogram your mind and body at a deep, subconscious level.

Lifetime Access

Come back to the masterclass, EFT, and rampage whenever you need to reconnect with the Chosen version of you.

You already know what happens when nothing changes.

This is where you choose differently.

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