CANDICE TAMARA
You’re not new to this.
You’ve read the books.
Listened to the podcasts.
Followed every social media account that talks about anxious & avoidant attachment.
Read every Instagram carousel on avoidants, red flags, ghosting, & breadcrumbs
Watched countless TikToks promising the “one sentence” that will make them commit.
You could probably explain anxious attachment better than most therapists at this point.
You’re the friend who spots the avoidant for everyone else, the one analyzing their dates & decoding mixed signals, telling them to not waste their time because they're the prize
Yet, you're still stuck in the same cycle.
You’ve tried:
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Giving them space - hoping it would pull them closer.
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Asking friends how to word the perfect text so you don’t “scare them off.”
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Acting cool when you wanted more.
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Dating people who weren't your type but there was no 'spark'
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Repeating affirmations like “I’m the prize” while refreshing your phone.
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Pretending you didn't care - while feeling sick inside.
And still…
The people you date start strong and then fade, ghost, or pull away.
Or the partner you’re with goes warm–cold - engaged one minute, distant the next. It's a rollercoaster that's anything but fun.
Conversations about feelings turn into shutdowns, arguments, or you shrinking yourself to keep the peace.
Commitment always feels just out of reach.
Every time it happens, you spiral.
You wonder:
“Did I say too much?”
“Am I scaring them off?”
“Why do I always end up with people who can’t fully choose me?”
You’re watching friends get engaged, married, start families and even though you’re happy for them, you can’t help but think:
“Why is this so easy for everyone else when I’ve done so much work?”
Because no matter how self-aware you are…
No matter how many boundaries you try to set or affirmations you repeat…
You’re still stuck in hot-cold love, anxious spirals, and quietly begging for commitment.
You can explain the theory but you still feel the wobble in your chest when things feel uncertain.
And you still don’t know how to break the anxious–avoidant loop... even when you’re doing “everything right.”
If this hits like a punch in the gut… you’re exactly where you need to be.
WHAT YOU ACTUALLY NEED TO STOP ATTRACTING AVOIDANTS...
You don’t need another text strategy.
You don’t need to study more “signs they’re avoidant.”
You don’t need another hack to make someone stay.
What you need...
Is to stop abandoning yourself to keep love and finally feel calm, certain and secure, no matter how someone else shows up
Because here’s what keeps happening:
– You feel that first wobble in your stomach.
– You hold back a truth or soften a boundary so you don’t “scare them off.”
– You act cool when you actually want more.
– You chase safety - with silence, overthinking, or perfectly crafted texts - instead of staying true to yourself.
On the outside you look calm, self-aware, “high value.”
On the inside your nervous system is bracing for abandonment.
And people feel that, even if you never say a word.
The result?
You keep ending up with partners who pull back, stay half-in, or give mixed signals.
Not because you’re unworthy, but because the part of you that expects love to leave keeps choosing people who can’t stay - until you rewire that pattern.
Here’s the shift this masterclass gives you:
It’s not about getting someone to stay.
It’s about coming back to yourself - so you’re no longer walking on eggshells, second-guessing every move, or trying to earn love.
When you stop abandoning you…
– You stop falling for people who can’t fully choose you.
– You stop spiralling the moment things feel uncertain.
– You stop attracting hot–cold, emotionally unavailable love altogether.
This isn’t more dating tricks, scripts or rules.
It’s the deep reset that lets secure, consistent love finally feel safe and natural.
YOUR QUESTIONS ANSWERED INSIDE...
“Why do I keep ending up with emotionally unavailable partners?”
“Why do I always fall for people who can’t commit?”
“Why do they act so interested at first… and then disappear?”
“How do I stop attracting the same type of avoidant partner over and over?”
“Why do I chase people who pull away even though I know I shouldn’t?”
"Why don't I want the ones who want me & are consistent?
“Why do I feel anxious the second someone I like gets distant?”
“Why do the people I want most lose interest?”
“How can I feel calm and secure when dating instead of constantly worrying?”
“Why do I feel like I’m begging for commitment in my relationship?”
“Why does my partner shut down or pull away when I share my feelings?”
“Why do relationships always feel like an emotional rollercoaster for me?”
“How do I finally break free from the anxious–avoidant cycle once and for all?”
“Can avoidant partners become more consistent - or am I wasting my time?”
What You’ll Get Inside Stop Attracting Avoidants
This isn’t just a masterclass.
It’s the identity shift that ends the anxious–avoidant loop at its core and makes secure, emotionally available love your new normal.
You’ll get instant access to:
1. The Full Masterclass Training (60mins)
A pre-recorded deep-dive class that finally explains why you keep ending up in anxious–avoidant dynamics and how to break the cycle for good.
You’ll learn:
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Why people who feel amazing at first pull back once things start to feel real
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What’s actually happening inside you when love feels uncertain (and why it pulls avoidants closer)
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How your subtle “chasing” energy shows up even when you’re saying nothing at all
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Why knowing attachment theory hasn’t stopped the panic - and what does
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What to do in the exact moment you feel the wobble so you stop abandoning yourself and stay secure
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How to become the version of you who naturally attracts & keeps consistent, emotionally available love
This isn’t about scripts, rules, or mind games - it’s the clarity and energetic reset you’ve been missing.
2. Deep Secure Self Tapping™ Session
You’ll be guided through a powerful EFT tapping round that helps you:
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Release the fear, panic, and chasing energy that draws avoidants in
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Rewire the “love = anxiety/performance” pattern in your nervous system
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Anchor into the calm, chosen, fully secure version of you
Repeat this for 21–30 days and watch the triggers and pull toward avoidants dissolve.
3. Secure Self Visualisation & Identity Activation
A powerful, guided experience that:
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Rewires your nervous system for safety and consistency in love - so calm and clarity become your default.
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Activates the identity of your Secure Self - the version of you who doesn’t chase, overthink, or shrink to keep love.
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Helps your body feel chosen, safe and certain - instead of bracing for rejection or abandonment.
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Builds automatic “I know what to do” confidence & self-trust - so when love feels uncertain, you stay grounded and true to yourself.
4. Simple Daily Integration Practice
You’ll also leave with a simple 21- to 30-day integration plan: repeat the EFT tapping + this visualisation daily to reprogram your mind and body at a deep, subconscious level.
Because awareness alone isn’t enough - this practice rewires how you feel and respond in love, until security becomes your natural state and the anxious - avoidant cycle stops repeating.
You’ll Walk Away Feeling...
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Clear & self-trusting - you’ll finally understand why the anxious–avoidant loop keeps happening and how to step out of it.
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Calm in moments that once triggered spirals - no more panic texting, overthinking, or begging for reassurance.
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Confident & self-led - you stop subtly chasing or proving yourself and know how to hold your truth.
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Secure in both body & mind - your nervous system stops bracing for abandonment.
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Magnetic & grounded - because you’re no longer leaking energy trying to be chosen.
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Certain in love - “I don’t need to chase love; I know how to hold it.”
This isn’t just about one person or one situationship
it’s about who you become when you stop abandoning yourself in love.
You stop attracting avoidants when you stop avoiding you...
You’ve tried the dating rules.
You’ve tried waiting.
You’ve tried pretending not to care.
But nothing has changed - because the change isn’t out there.
It’s in here - in your body, your energy, your nervous system.
This is how you stop attracting emotionally unavailable love… and start creating the consistent, available love you’ve been searching for.
This is how you actually stop attracting avoidants...
My Method Works &
The Results Speak For Themselves:
