FROM CHASING TO CHOSEN | Candice Tamara

Stop waiting to be chosen & Shift into chosen energy so love starts choosing you back - consistently.

I KNOW YOU...

You keep ending up in almost-relationships.

It starts intense - daily messages, deep chats, amazing chemistry - but when it comes to actually committing, it turns into “I really like you… I’m just not ready for a relationship” or “Let’s just see what happens.”

You attract emotionally unavailable OR inconsistent people, even when you swear you’re done with them.

They come on strong, say all the right things, make future plans… then go quiet, pull back, or become vague. Your body immediately goes into panic mode - refreshing messages, rereading conversations, wondering, “What changed?

You’re always the one carrying the emotional weight of the connection.

You’re the one initiating conversations, keeping things flowing, holding space when they’re stressed, and trying to “fix” any weird energy. Deep down you’re exhausted, but you tell yourself, “If I stop trying, this will fall apart,”

You silence your needs because you’re terrified of ‘messing it up.

When something feels off, you don’t say anything - you rewrite it in your head: “It’s fine, I don’t want to be dramatic… maybe I’m overreacting.” You’d rather swallow your feelings than risk them thinking you’re needy.

You mould yourself into what you think they want, instead of showing up as you.

You notice what they like and subtly shape-shift - your opinions soften, your boundaries blur, you’re always “easy-going” and “chill.” On the surface you look confident, but inside you’re thinking, “If they see all of me, will they still want me?”

You feel like you always like them more than they like you.

Once you’re interested, you become hyper-aware of yourself - watching your timing, your tone, and how much you care, trying not to come on “too strong.” There’s a constant background hum of, “Don’t scare them off. Don’t be too much,”

You abandon yourself the moment you feel a trigger.

And when you sense distance, you start overriding yourself - explaining away inconsistency, justifying the bare minimum, and questioning whether you’re asking for too much.

You attract people who only seem to choose you when you pull away.

When you’re open, warm, and invested - they’re distant or unsure. The moment you emotionally detach or stop reaching out, they pop back up with, “I miss you,” “I’ve been thinking about you,”

Your self-worth rises and falls based on how they’re behaving that day.

A good morning text can lift your entire mood; a delayed reply can ruin your afternoon. You know logically you shouldn’t give one person this much power, but when they pull back, your brain spirals into, “What did I do? How do I fix this?”

Just imagine...

Imagine being in a connection where someone is clear, intentional, and sure about you..

Where you hear “I want something real with you,” and you don’t have to wonder where you stand.

Imagine dating without spiraling..

Because consistency feels normal to you, not something you wait for or hope doesn’t disappear.

Imagine being in a relationship where effort is mutual..

Where you’re not carrying the emotional weight alone or holding everything together.

Imagine speaking your needs without fear and having them met..

Instead of worrying you’re being too much or asking for the wrong thing.

Imagine being loved for who you actually are..

Not the softened or self-edited version of you, but your real, whole self.

Imagine trusting yourself so deeply that triggers don’t take over..

You ground yourself, regulate, and stay with you instead of abandoning yourself.

Imagine being wanted when you’re open, present, and warm..

Not only when you pull away or go quiet.

Imagine your sense of worth staying steady..

So a slow reply doesn’t unravel you or turn into a story about what you did wrong

Imagine attracting love that stays..

A connection that feels safe, reciprocal, and steady, and grows instead of disappearing the moment you care.

I WANT THIS!

Why You're Not Where You Want To Be...

If you’re honest, this is the confusing part.

You know what you want.
You want to feel chosen, secure, and at ease in love.

And yet, you keep finding yourself in the same emotional place - whether you’re dating or already in a relationship.

Most people assume this means they’re choosing the wrong people
or doing something wrong.

But here’s what most people don’t realise:

Somewhere early on, you learned - subconsciously, that being chosen wasn’t guaranteed for you.

That love could be inconsistent.
That you couldn’t just expect it - you had to earn it.

So you adapted.

You learned:
I have to try.
I have to work for it.
I have to prove myself to be chosen.

That belief doesn’t disappear as you grow up.
It follows you into adult life - and quietly shapes how you show up in relationships.

When you believe you’re not chosen, your body stays braced for it.
On alert.
Waiting for the moment love changes, fades, or is taken away.

So without realising it, you start chasing being chosen.

That can look like:

Over-giving
Over-thinking
Proving your worth
Waiting for reassurance
Staying where you don’t feel like a priority
Accepting inconsistency or emotional distance as normal

Different relationships.
Different people.
Same root.

Your beliefs and assumptions create your relationship patterns.

They shape how you show up - and how others respond to you.

If you assume you’re not chosen, life keeps reflecting that back.

And here’s the part most people miss:

They can’t choose you because you’re not choosing you.

When you don’t feel chosen internally, you keep trying to secure it externally.

You work for it.
You wait for proof.
You look to others to confirm what you don’t yet feel inside.

This is why the chosen wound is so hard to spot - it doesn’t feel like rejection. It feels reasonable.

They won't say... "I can't choose you because you aren't choosing you"... it will sound like:

"I like you but I'm just not ready for a relationship"

"I'm overwhelmed, have a lot going on and need space"

"You're perfect for me, you haven't done anything wrong.... it's me, I'm just not in the right place"

Or poof, they're just gone without words.

Until this changes, the pattern will keeps playing out.

That’s what this masterclass, From Chasing to Chosen is designed to shift.

What changes when you move from Chasing to Chosen...

When this shifts, relationships feel different and they move differently.

You feel calmer in yourself.
More settled.
More sure of where you stand.

In dating, connections are simpler.

Interest is clearer.
Consistency feels normal - not something you wait for or question.

You experience being wanted without having to chase it.

Being chosen without having to earn it.

In relationships, you feel more relaxed and present.

You’re not carrying the emotional weight of the connection.
You feel met, supported, and secure in yourself - not dependent on constant reassurance.

And in real life, this shows up as:

clearer communication
steadier connection
less emotional turbulence
more ease in love & your relationships

Not because you’re trying to be different, but because you're no longer trying to be chosen.

You’re choosing yourself.

And that’s what people respond to.

That’s the difference this shift makes.

I'M READY

What You'll Learn Inside
From Chasing To Chosen:

This isn’t another masterclass.

It’s the identity recalibration that stops the pattern you’ve been stuck in.

You don’t need more dating rules.
You don’t need to act cooler, detach, or “heal for another six months.”

What you need is the internal shift that changes how love responds to you.

That’s what Chasing to Chosen delivers.

Inside Chasing to Chosen, you will learn:

> Why you’ve been reliving the same love story -

no matter who you datE

You’ll finally understand the subconscious identity that keeps pulling you into almost-relationships, breadcrumbing, emotional unavailability, and mixed signals… and why it’s never been about not being “good enough.”
This alone will make you breathe differently.

> The invisible chasing pattern you’ve been operating from - even when you thought you weren’t chasinG

This is the part no one teaches: how your energy chases even when your behaviour doesn’t.
You’ll see the exact ways you’ve been energetically trying to earn love, keep love, or secure love… and how to stop the pattern instantly.

> Why avoidant, inconsistent people feel familiar to you - and how to disconnect from that dynamic for good

You’ll understand why you’re magnetised to emotionally unavailable people, and how to shift into an identity that only attracts people who are emotionally ready, consistent, and intentional.

> The Chosen identity - the version of you who is naturally pursued, valued, and prioritised

You’ll learn the internal stance, energetic signature, and assumptions of someone who is chosen without effort.
And you’ll feel what that identity is like in your body - not just in your mind.

> How your relationships shift when you shift - and why it happens faster than you think

You’ll understand the precise inner change that leads to:
• consistent communication
• clear intentions
• real effort
• deeper intimacy
• relationships that grow instead of collapse
• and people who step up without being nudged, guided, or chased
This is not accidental. It’s energetic inevitability.

> And the exact tools to embody this shift - instantly

You’ll be guided through integration work and EFT using my Secure Method™ so your nervous system receives a new baseline: “I am chosen. I don’t chase.”

What’s Inside Chasing to Chosen

A focused, transformational masterclass designed to shift your identity from chasing → to chosen.

This isn’t hours of information you don't know how to use.

It’s a precise experience that creates the internal shift your love life responds to.

Inside Chasing to Chosen, you’ll receive:

The Chasing to Chosen Masterclass:

A clear, grounded training that explains:

how the not-chosen wound is currently showing up in your dating or relationships
the subtle ways you’ve been trying to be chosen without realising it
how being chosen actually feels and looks different - internally and in real life
and what needs to shift so you stop repeating the same patterns

Guided EFT Tapping Session (Secure Method™)

A deep guided EFT session using my Secure Method™ to release old beliefs and chase-energy from your nervous system. You won’t just understand the shift - you will feel it land in your body.

This is where your reactions, patterns, and anxieties start to change instantly.

Chosen Rampage Audio

A short daily audio designed to start your day in the chosen energy - helping you reinforce the new assumptions and embody the new internal state that this work creates.

Simple Daily Integration Practice\\

You’ll also leave with a simple 21- to 30-day integration plan: repeat the EFT tapping + chosen rampage daily to reprogram your mind and body at a deep, subconscious level.

Lifetime Access

Come back to the masterclass, EFT, and rampage whenever you need to reconnect with the Chosen version of you.

You already know what happens when nothing changes.

This is where you choose differently.