CANDICE TAMARA
My love...can you imagine it?
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Picking healthy, loving & emotionally available partners that can meet your needs, make you feel safe & can give you that happy ever after that you have been dreaming of
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Feeling so self-assured that you no longer have to ask your partner constantly to reassure you & tell you they love you 100x a day to soothe your anxiety
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Able to focus on other areas of your life rather than watching your phone waiting for their text & overthinking every interaction wondering if they are losing interest & will leave you
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Feeling safe within yourself as you have deep self-trust, able to be yourself, validate you, put your needs first & input boundaries without guilt
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No longer feeling ‘needy’ as you fill up your own cup & make you happy so you can just enjoy what the other person has to give without expectations & pressure
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Being able to communicate your needs… wait no, first, knowing what your needs are & then being able to communicate your needs without it turning into a conflict...no more walking on eggshells
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Self-soothing your anxiety & working through your own triggers without pushing them away with self-sabotaging behaviour
*Lots more than 14 have now gone through this program, listen to the F*CK Trauma podcast to hear from some of them
Right now you ARE...
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You are an overachiever, that has worked so hard to achieve so much but doesn’t feel like you're enough, often seen as the 'strong' one by others, your self-critical, put everyone first before you & you change yourself to please others
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You attract partners that are emotionally unavailable & unable to meet your needs, perhaps things are good at first but then they pull away when you get close. You get very anxious when they pull away, chasing after them, asking them what you did & working harder for their attention
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You over-attach very quickly to new partners, ignoring red flags as they make you feel good and giving them all your attention as you think they are the ONE, without them having to prove anything
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You are unsure of what your needs are or how to make you happy so you are putting that pressure on the other person, perhaps they say you are too 'needy' or 'clingy'
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You overthink every interaction looking for signs their losing interest or leaving you.You're attached to your phone waiting for them to message on high alert. You need constant reassurance or nitpick fights to get it.
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You’re unable to process your emotions & triggers, perhaps having emotional convo’s or sending long texts about how you feel without clearly communicating what you need from them so they are just confused
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You feel rejected when they are unavailable or online not messaging you, you expect them to spend all their time & focus on you. You have given up your interests to be with them & keep yourself very available for them, even cancelling plans with friends.
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You put up with shitty behaviour that doesn’t make you feel good but you aren’t able to communicate clear boundaries & stick to them. You struggle to walk away even when you know you should, infact, begging them to stay
It's time to STOP...so that you can have & enjoy the healthy, loving relationships that you deserve without your anxiety sabotaging them.
I KNOW EXACTLY HOW YOU FEEL..
Hi, I'm Candice... a Trauma & Mindset Coach
I help you have a healthy, loving relationship with yourself & others.
I experienced a lot of trauma as a child & had a deeeepp abandonment wound
I was anxiously attached in my relationships, I attracted partners that couldn't meet my needs, but I begged, pleaded & fixed to try to make it work. Losing myself at the same time. I sabotaged relationships with needy behaviour, putting all my focus on them as I had no idea how to make me happy.
I had no idea what a boundary was so kept myself super available & that meant also putting up with shitty behaviour.
I was riddled with anxiety & anxious thoughts, overthinking every interaction, waiting by my phone for their text & needing constant reassurance.
This was all before I knew it was coming from my trauma & abandonment wound.
Once I knew I was anxiously attached, I was able to work on healing my abandonment wound, changing my patterns & reprogramming my mind & nervous system to receive healthy love without anxiety.
I built my self-trust & now I'm a secure attachment style, able to have healthy attachments that make me feel safe & good. And better yet, I make myself feel safe, I honour my needs first & I no longer accept anything that doesn't bring me value as I now know my worth.
And best of all, I get to guide my clients to finding safety in themselves so that they can have the healthy, loving relationships they deserve.
I get quick results for my clients because I am in your head with you as I have literally been there, I know exactly how you feel & I also know the path to get out.
This group container is the EXACT method I use with my 1:1 clients to take them from feeling ANXIOUS to SECURE in love.
DON'T JUST TAKE MY WORD FOR IT..
Emma's story...
Before Emma came to me, she was single & anxious in her relationships. She was attracting emotionally unavailable partners & working hard to impress them. She over-attached early to new partners & people pleased
Whilst working together, we worked on healing the root cause of her anxiety, building self-trust, learning to meet her needs & setting boundaries without guilt.
I encouraged her to date to practice not over-attaching which she did successfully, we worked on breaking her patterns of picking partners that couldn't meet her needs & then she met a healthy partner that was emotionally available.
She continued to keep meeting her needs throughout the relationship, keeping her identity & being herself. When she experienced anxiety/triggers, she was able to work through them without sabotaging the relationship & was also able to communicate her needs clearly without conflict because she had found safety in herself.
You can listen to more about this directly from Emma, on my Podcast F*CK Trauma
Update: Emma is now in a healthy, secure relationship yay!
After years of therapy, I found myself understanding my habits/thoughts/behaviours and not really knowing what to do about them. I couldn't believe how many changes I made in just 3 months of working with Candice
How EMMA went from anxiously attaching to
emotionally unavailable partners to
attracting a secure relationship
This is for YOU,if....
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You know you have an anxious attachment style /abandonment wound & are ready to work on healing it so that you can have the healthy, loving relationships you deserve
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You are single & would like to find a partner but you attract partners that can't meet your needs & treat you how you deserve. You over-attach early, ignore red flags but put all your eggs in their basket, get very preoccupied with them easily without much effort on their part, only for them to pull away leaving you anxious, wondering what you did.
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You are in a relationship but know you are sabotaging it with your anxiety, feeling needy & overthinking every interaction, putting pressure on your partner, suppressing your needs to please them & unable to communicate assertively without it turning into a conflict
Ready to have the safe, loving relationships that you deserve?
Thought so...let me introduce to you....
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A LIVE 10 week group container to guide you from ANXIOUS to SECURE in Love
starting Feb 2024
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What's INCLUDED...
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LIVE group calls & recordings (calls for different time zones)
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10 x modules / fieldwork
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Group voxer voice note support between calls
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Custom meditations, EFT & tools/techniques
Programme OUTLINE...
Week 1 - Clarity
Gain clarity on where you are currently, where you really want to be without the fear & what is holding you back.
Week 2 - CONNECTION
Connect with yourself to get to know who you really are, without others opinions, who you are at your core, your values, passions, qualities etc
Week 3 - COMPASSION
Going deep into recognising what the root cause of your anxiety is so that we can begin the healing process
Week 4 - ACCEPTANCE
Letting go of the stories you have told yourself & healing your wounds with inner child healing. Learning how to reassure & validate yourself.
Week 5 - YOUR NEEDS
Identifying what your needs are & learning how to honour them, having a clear roadmap of action steps to do this
Week 6 - Your needs
Identify what you need from others. If single, working on breaking the pattern of over-attaching early & attracting unavailable partners. If in a relationship, learn what you need from your partner & how to ask for it
Week 7 - TRIGGERS
Identifying your triggers, learning how to work through them & soothe your anxiety with EFT tapping (a super simple & effective tool)
Week 8 - BOUNDARIES
Identifying what boundaries need to be put in, releasing any guilt & taking actionable steps to
input them
Week 9 - Communication
Learning how to communicate your need’s & boundaries to others in a way that is clear & without conflict
Week 10 - CELEBRATE YOU
Reflecting on the past 10 weeks, answering any questions & ensuring you have the tools & steps to go forward on your journey.
MY LOVE, YOU HAVE 2 OPTIONS...
Continue going at it alone & try to break your patterns yourself over time with painful lessons, & in the meantime getting stuck in relationships that don't serve you or worse toxic, or sabotaging your relationships by pushing them away with your anxious behaviour
OR...
Try a tried & tested method that actually works to guide you to feeling more secure in yourself & your relationships in a short amount of time & giving you the tools to be able to manage your anxiety going forward so that you can have healthy & loving relationships & actually enjoy them!
Babe, how amazing would it feel to start the new year as a new you!
Your investment in YOU
There are three package options to choose from, depending on the level of support you want.
Enrolling now to start mid Feb 21st 2024
STANDARD
Group calls plus
group voxer support
Paid in Full
£1599
(Around $2000)
Payment Plans
3 months x £547pm
6 months x £281pm
12 months x £144pm
SUPPORTED
Same as standard package PLUS
1 x 1:1 call with Candice
Paid in Full
£1888
(Around $2364)
Payment Plans
3 months x £644pm
6 months x £329pm
12 months x £168pm
The Gamechanger
Same as standard package PLUS 2 x 1:1 calls AND private 1:1 voxer support with Candice
Paid in Full
£2555
(Around $3199)
Payment Plans
3 months x £866pm
6 months x £440pm
12 months x £223pm
BOOK A FREE 15MIN CALL TO CHECK THIS IS A
GOOD FIT FOR YOU
Meet Claire
How Claire went from feeling lost & begging for bare minimum attention from others to feeling secure & recognising her value in self
I can establish boundaries, and I no longer base my self worth on the opinions of others. I know I am not asking for too much, and the right person will understand that, and stay. I feel comfortable being me.
"Before the Anxious to Secure in Love group program, I was so lost on who I was as a person. My entire value was defined by if I was in a relationship.I found myself begging for the attention of my potential partners, sending paragraphs, and clinging to the smallest bit of effort because i thought it was all I deserved. I had no boundaries; no idea what I wanted in an ideal partner, and wasn't exhibiting ideal partner behaviour on my end. I was anxious, needy, and spiraling.
Now, after the program I feel like a completely different person. I am now so in tune with myself, my needs, my feelings, and what I want out of my romantic and platonic relationships. I can establish boundaries, and I no longer base my self worth on the opinions of others. I know I am not asking for too much, and the right person will understand that, and stay. I feel comfortable being me.
I would say to anyone on the fence..100% do it!! it's life changing. I had never once DONE the work. I always knew I needed to "Do the work" but I had NO clue what that entailed or where to start. Candice's program helped me to truly love myself, an in turn, learn what I deserve. I also learned ;so much about communicating boundaries, how to navigate family relationships, and, was given the tools to cope when I am triggered. Candice is amazing and worth every penny!"
- Claire
The image is not an accurate photo of my client to protect my client's identity due to the sensitive nature of my work
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What is the difference between coaching & therapy?Therapy is great for talking about your feelings, trauma events & processing your emotions but it doesn't give you the path or action steps to move past the trauma, to get you to where you want to be. Coaching is this gap, it is results driven & requires action. It is designed to get you from where you are to where you want to be. My coaching also addresses/heals the trauma & then moves you forward. A lot of my clients have been in therapy for years & haven't seen results, after just a few months working with me, they make changes in their lives/minds that they NEVER thought they would.
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What's included with private coaching?> 3 x 1:1 60min sessions via video call with Candice per month > Unlimited private voxer voicenote/text support with Candice > Fieldwork & worksheets inbetween sessions > Tools & techniques for self-coaching
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How will sessions take place?They are all online over video call on zoom
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What if I'm in another country?No problem, I work with clients all around the world in different time zones so that isn't a problem, we will be able to find a time that suits.
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Do you offer one session at a time?I don't, my coaching is based on getting you results and guides you through a tried & tested model which I can only guarantee results once followed for a certain amount of time.
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I can't afford 1:1 coaching at the moment, is there an alternative?Yes, I created The Secure Mastermind which is a beautiful hybrid of 1:1 & group coaching at an affordable price. For more details click the button below:
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What is voxer support?Voxer is a free app that allows you to voice note or text me directly outside of our sessions for any guidance that you may need or want to work through. This is your private access to me throughout our container for your maximum support & growth.
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Not seen the answer to your question here.....No problem, book a free 15min call on the link above & I will answer any questions you have, alternatively contact me on hello@candicetamaracoaching.com
Meet Ania
How Ania went from being anxiously attached to situation ships to finding her peace
I feel like I really gained myself back through this program, and am so incredibly glad I took the leap and signed up. It’s given me peace again.
"When I started the Anxious to Secure in Love group program I was on the heels of a major let down of a situation ship, reeling with anxiety, confused about where I had gone wrong, and with very little self compassion. I was easily swooned by empty words, and attention, and feeling like I would really take anything I could get for attention. From friends and love interests.
Now after the program, I feel so grounded in myself, who I am, and how normal my desires really are. I feel comfortable asking questions while getting to know someone without the anxiety or emotional charge, I don’t feel the need to explain myself or send long messages conveying my hurt or frustrations, and it feels soooo much easier to walk away from a situation that isn’t good for me. I also just feel more grounded in my day to day life, which has impacted how I make decisions overall. I don’t feel panicked or anxious like I was feeling a lot last year. I also don’t feel pushy about getting my needs met, I feel more comfortable communicating them, and asking if that’s something they can do. Instead of just leaving it alone and hoping for the best, I can ask and find out and decide what I will do with that information.
I really stumbled upon Candice's program and wasn’t sure what to expect, I was skeptical. I feel like I really gained myself back through it, and am so incredibly glad I took the leap and signed up. It’s given me peace again."
- Ania
The image is not an accurate photo of my client to protect my client's identity due to the sensitive nature of my work